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writes:i met her 15yrs ago and we have had most difficult friendship ever. I'm not kidding,we met through her brother and from that first day have been friends, she was a single mother raising her son and i was so impressed by the way she cared for him she was a great mother hes grown now and has turned out wonderful thanks to her devotion its truly inspiring, but from the first day i met her she was completely honest with me about her lifestyle she was an escort and i was fine with that we were friends good friends i had just been divorced and was having a time of it, she allowed me to stay with her off and on we became to peas in a pod ya no really tight i never questioned her lifestyle and i was seeing other women at the time, she kinda didn't seem to like any of them never wanted them around us then one day she just turned on me and we didn't talk 4 2Yrs. then we ran into each other and picked up where we left off it has been back and forth for all these yrs,by the way she is beautiful and sexy smart funny witty always has been.then boom 2yrs ago i fell in love with her. after ALL these yrs why. she has always been in my thoughts even when we didn't speak for long periods,she unfortunately doesn't feel the same, but yet she always renters my life after we fight and swear never again. i think i hurt her many yrs ago when i didn't make any advances towards her. she is no longer doing escort but does see 1 or two old clients still,I'm totally in love with her she knows it, i don't push the issue but would really like to ,she isrealsexyand i fantasize about her and i no she still provides services for some clients. should i just ask her how much and if she excepts then pay her and maybe that will get her out of my system or what imtotaly at witts end she drives me crazy lol. i mean can we remain friends if we do this as abizz agreement???
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reader, doc1961 +, writes (23 November 2010):
doc1961 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionand also shes really is a doll but, but wow i'm not even sure she is able to have a truly intimate relationship i dont no but i sure have got myself in a jam , hey dont they make some majic pill for this kinda crap, thanks for all ur advice
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (23 November 2010):
 No. Don't do it that way.
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (23 November 2010):
 If you go through with this, in the end she'll just view you as another John, and chances are a complete sleaze. She'll have no reason to respect you, afterall, you are just another guy using her for sex.
Congrats.
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reader, doc1961 +, writes (22 November 2010):
doc1961 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso just disregard 15 yrs of friendship because i don't get my way, ya i see ur point and all but wow that's kicking her and myself to the curb, but I'm sure your rite for the most part, she knows how i feel already so i guess my question is what do i have to loose, if your saying to get away if she doesn't want me in the same manner, might as well play her game and pay for it. but then again can i handle just being another john huh??? that i dont no.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2010): No, if someone asked me to have sex with them, and they were my friend, even if that were my line of business, I wouldn't accept and I'd feel very differently about them, I'd look down on them even.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2010): If you have sex with your "friend", that will change the dynamic completely between the two of you --- and probably not for the better. Because you believe you are in love with this woman, having sex with her is simply going to solidify that idea in your head and heart. So...you will be stark raving in love...and your friend will view you as another John and sleep with other men. Not exactly the basis for a healthy friendship. Also, stop with the "friendship" camouflage. I learned the hard way as a red blooded male that I make a lousy girlfriend. If I'm hanging with another woman on a regular basis...I want to bone her (which is precisely what you want to do to your "friend"). Pretending that the two of you are "friends" just confuses things. You're not friends in the true sense of the word. She's a romantic interest of yours -- unrequited at that. If I were you, I'd tell her how I felt and let the chips fall where they may.
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