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writes:I need help...i like this guyand he likes meand we flirted with each other for about 5 months before he finally asked me out. He's shy...I said yes of course, but then the next day, my friend "Janie" said that he felt her up the day before. I was heart broken of course. I completely went crazy on him. I know we weren't dating yet, but i thought he liked me... and now i'm not sure. He said we was very sorry for what he did and even started to cry about it. I forgave him, but now i don't trust him...The next day, he told me that "Janie" pressured him into felling her up (remember, he's shy). He said that "Janie" kept asking him and asking him, and finally, he felt pressured to do it. "Janie" had a crush on him apparently, and was jealous of our growing relationship. I told her i liked him, because she was my friend. Anyway, she thought that by forcing him to fell her up, it would jump start their relationship, but it only made him guilty and nervous.And now "Janie" is trying to act like nothing ever happened, when she tried to steal my boyfriend... What should i do, i thought she was my friend...I forgive my boyfriend, it wasn't his fault... but what should i do about "Janie"?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey guys, I confronted Janie. She said that she was very sorry for what she did with my boyfriend. She said that she DID pressure him into feeling her up. She said it was a mistake and that she didn't mean to hurt me or my boyfriend. I then told her that i was thinking of ending it with my boyfriend, and she said that everything was all her fault and that she doesn't want us to break up. I still don't trust her though. We have been friends for only 1 year-ish and she broke a trust that i used to have in her. i honestly trust my boyfriend more.
My boyfriend and i are still together, because i realize that he is truely sorry and isn't interested in any other girls at all. it's been 8 weeks and we are totally happy. I still talk to Janie, and we are still building trust.
Don't get me wrong. Sometimes i do have doubts in my mind. But i guess watever happens will happen for the better.
THANX EVERYONE!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): You have to work out which of them is telling you the truth. Confront Janie about it, now that you have confronted your boyfriend. Some friend!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): Get real, janie didn't 'pressure' him to do anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): She forced him to feel her up? I doubt that's the case. She may have seduced him but she can't force him.
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reader, Shygirl101 +, writes (11 November 2010):
I think basically u need to find out whats more important to you your best friend or a guy.has she ever done this before or anything like it? if so then find a new friend.if she liked him before you did then you started talking to him i think you two should work it out.im not saying shes right because shes not but ive learned that friends last longer than guys do...you cant have them both you have too choose because now that theyve hooked up it will never work
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (11 November 2010):
 Janie pressured your boyfriend into feeling her up? I've never heard of peer pressure pertaining to feeling someone up. I'm sorry but your boyfriend most likely felt her up on purpose..he's at that age of where his hormones are raging and he can't keep his hands to himself. I'm not buying his story. You need to ditch them both, Janie for not stopping your boyfriend from putting his hands on her, and your boyfriend because you don't trust him. Got to have trust in order for this relationship to work. If you don't then you will have to constantly keep tabs on him which is tiresome, and pretty soon it will fall apart.
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