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writes:I have a best friend and she likes girls. She told me she had a crush on a girl and I advised her to tell her and see where it went from there. A couple of days later she told me that she was sexually attracted to me. I'm not sure how to react to this? She wants to take our friendship to a friends with benefits. Wants me to explore things with her. She is a very pretty girl but she's my best friend. Like I'm lost I don't know what to say, how to react, or what she expects from me. She is 20 and I am 19. Any advise ? Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoh thank you guys a lot it really helped me. I so love my boyfriend and if she wants to be my friend she can be but I can't be more than that. I told her and she was a bit upset but she would like to be friends she understood where I was coming from. Thanks OddOne & thatgothgirl20 it was wierd for a bit i had never been in a situation like that so thanks for givion your advice it really helped now we go to the movies and to parties with my our friends.
she says we are better friends she would never lead me to do anything I don't want to do. Thanks girls.
To the anonymous I see whay your saying but girls are just not my thing for a relationship.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (29 September 2008):
 Well if you are straight, tell her that you are flattered, but that you just want to remain friends. Introduce her to someone you think is sexier than you. Hang out as a group. Maybe she will fall for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): Why not give it a try? At the very least you could say that it's something you've tried and decided you didn't like it. Or, is that what concerns you? Are you afraid you might like it? If you decide to go for it, just let her take control, mimick what she does to you, and act like you would if a man were going down on you. It's not much different. Oh, and let us know how things go!
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reader, OddOne  +, writes (29 September 2008):
 ALWAYS a horrible thing to hear, whether or not it's homosexual from a best friend.
I wouldn't personally, as I don't like the word "friend's with privileges" and I've had that used on me too many times and it's more a way to use you.
But if you aren't the same as in, homosexual/bisexual, then I think you need to talk to her and tell her that you're straight, and you only want to be her friend. But if you're willing, then I suggest you think things through a little. Would you rather a friendship or "friends with privileges?"
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