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female
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36-40,
*ola2010
writes:hi i have a friendship problem this is going to be quite long so please bare with me. i have been best friends with my best friend for 12 years we have been like siseters she was part of my family. i have been in a relationship for the past year with my bf and one day out of the blue she text me saying she was sik of being left on the side and then she text me sayin she has always tried to help me with my relationship problems and i have never helped her wen she was in an abusive relationship years ago. she recently got in another abusive relationship and she was saying i did not get involved or have a word with her bf. i had no idea she felt this way i thought if there was ever an issue she would be willing to talk to me about it not tell me over text. i felt really hurt because she also sed best friends we were now wer just mates. i tried contacting her to make things write and to apologize as i dident knw she felt that way and maybe i should have done more it was just that i dident want to interfear in her relationship not that i dident care :(. i love her so much n dnt wanna loose our friendship. she also claimed that i used her askin her to come out with me and my bf wen i only ask because i want her to be there as i enjoy her company. she dident speak to me for about a wekk i was constantly phoning her the first few days and she dident pik up then i text. she sed she was sorry for putting all that on me she felt as tho i have changed, now she wants to concentrate on her own life etc. i just feel as tho things are not the same any more and she does not wanna get to involved with me i dont know what to do i want to talk and resolve this but she sed she does not want to talk about it plese help :( x x
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 September 2010):
 Aww girls will be girls and friendships are very vunerable. You say you never noticed that you had done anything to her yet i bet it was eating her up inside for ages and she just exploded inside. I had a friend that done the exact same. Im sure it came as a shock to you but what can you do? She is obviously still hurting very much at the moment and i think she might actually be looking for some sort off attention due to self confidence. It sounds like she wants someone to rescue her from her life and tell her that everything will be ok. Although you didnt want to stick your nose in to her relationship she took this as you didnt care for her. I advice you to write her a letter and explain to her how you feel and tell her you love her but that you cant wait around forever for her as it is hurting you to much. Give her a couple of weeks and if she doesnt reply well then darling i think you just need to go out and meet new people join some clubs and make new friends. You will be happy again in no time. Good luck.
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