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writes:My best friend is moving away to a different city. Now I will never be able to see or hang out with her at school anymore when school begins. It is very hard for me to make new friends, because everyone at school has their own friends. I am very upset that she is moving away. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): It's very unlikely that someone will bully you at school clubs. Usually the people there are nice and respectful with another. Just make sure to chose one that you think you will like. Even if you're afraid, just give it a try.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am afraid to get involved in clubs because i might get bullied and teased by the students. I am a very shy person. Sometimes when I talk to people they don't seem like their interested in talking. Some of the girls I talk to my class seem that they like to talk to me but I don't think they want me to eat lunch with them and introduce me to their friends. What should I do. Thank you for responding.
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reader, sarcy24  +, writes (29 June 2008):
 Hi there,
This happened to me at around the same age as you and it is very hard to begin with as most girls are in clicques already. For the first couple of weeks or so after she has left it will be hard but then things will get better believe me. When my friend left I was left alone at break and lunchtime which was hard. During these times go and sit in the playground and read a book or magazine and make yourself look happy. Smile if anyone looks over and look friendly and approachable. In lessons it is likely you sit next to different people for many subjects so begin to get more friendly with these girls. I got into another group by being more friendly with my geography partner. You will soon be asked into diferent groups. Also always say nice things about everyone, never anything nasty then all the groups will want you. Remember to stay close friends with your pal who is leaving as she will be finding it hard to fit into a new school too. E-mail ad ring her a lot. You will be able to spend holidays together so that will be something to look forward to. Good luck!
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (29 June 2008):
Hi there,
This happened to me at around the same age as you and it is very hard to begin with as most girls are in clicques already. For the first couple of weeks or so after she has left it will be hard but then things will get better believe me. When my friend left I was left alone at break and lunchtime which was hard. During these times go and sit in the playground and read a book or magazine and make yourself look happy. Smile if anyone looks over and look friendly and approachable. In lessons it is likely you sit next to different people for many subjects so begin to get more friendly with these girls. I got into another group by being more friendly with my geography partner. You will soon be asked into diferent groups. Also always say nice things about everyone, never anything nasty then all the groups will want you. Remember to stay close friends with your pal who is leaving as she will be finding it hard to fit into a new school too. E-mail ad ring her a lot. You will be able to spend holidays together so that will be something to look forward to. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): Aw. That sucks. I know how you feel. Well, what I suggest you do is start getting involved in school. Like join a club or get involved in the school play or something like that where you can surround yourself with other students by default. When you are all working together on a project of some sort, usually its a lot easier to make friends.
Like my first semester at my new college where I tranferred to, I had no friends and I didn't know anybody. And classes are not the most condicive places to make friends. But, luckily, (and inadvertently), I took this one course that was a hands on course, where me and a group of students worked at our school gallery, preparing for art exhibits and stuff like that. And it turned out to be so much fun and that is where I made all of my friends from college. Cause we were always together, working on projects and being in groups. Sometimes we would spend the entire day together working up to the art exhibit, and then we would all have wine and mingle at the openings. It was really fun and I made great friends, including one of my best friends to this day.
So my advice is to join a club or a group at school where you will be working on a project with other students, maybe a school play (you can work behind the scenes if you don't act, I've done it and it so much fun), or whatever club sounds fun to you and will keep you busy most of the week and constantly surrounded by other students. That in my opinion, is your best bet and I am pretty sure you'll be glad you did.
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