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writes:Hey this is kinda urgent cuz it is driving me insane!OK, so my best friend has always wanted to hang out with me and go to the movies...But now this summer we've only hung out twice...I mean, whenever I call her she doesnt answer, whenever I message her on myspace she doesnt reply..I feel like she's avoiding me...so i wrote her a myspace message saying to F***ken reply! And she's like "im so sorry blah blah blah i was busy.."and i forgave her.Her boyfriend left for the navy 2 weeks ago and before that the excuse was her bf [she wanted to spend as much time with him as possible]..i got it. We hung out after he left.now he's gone and she doesnt have time for me?He's coming back in 2 days and I'm i guess jealous that he will "hog her" all day again like before he left!So what do i do...keep leaving her comments on myspace and calling her...or should i just let it cool off. Like, i leave her voicemails and stuff and she wont answer. I'm starting to feel like i'm smothering her [or like im over eager] or something when all i want is an answer like HEY IM FINE!i dont know what to do. and i feel terrible that her bf is in the navy ...i just want my best friend back.
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reader, no_one_should_feel_that +, writes (7 August 2007):
it sounds like you love her instead of wanting to be friends with her ... i am sorry but i had to say it ..... i think she might know this and he doesnt want to hurt you thats why she is ignoring you ...... i didnt read what everyone else because i am tired and i wanted to tell you before i got to bed .. i like giving advice too much .. anyway you should tell her you do love her but all you want to do is hang out with her ..... unless you now want to get with her then i cant help you because i cant help people cheat... sorry...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): Just stop contacting her. That is very rude of her to be ignoring you period, but especially because her boyfriend has been gone so she should have time. maybe she is just depressed because he's gone & doesn't feel up to hanging out. Maybe the next time you talk to her you could ask her if something is bothering her. But you now need to leave it to her to contact you. Or you will look over eager. You need to focus on making another one of your friends your best friend possibly because this one doesn't seem interested right now for whatever reason.
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reader, agony87  +, writes (7 August 2007):
 Hey,I have a friend whos a bit like that she has a boyfriend in the army and when hes home we hardly see her.My advise is let her do her get in touch with you, youve done all you can, as in ringing her etc.Be there for her when she decides to come back to you but dont put your life on hold until shes ready, go out and see your other friends until she contacts you.But dont be a fool with her if she hangs out with you again then drops you when her boyfriend is back on the scene. hope this helps and good luck!xxx
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