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writes:I'm so angry right now because of my "best" friend.My apologies for my long-winded story.I knew this guy for about a year, and he used to come to where I work almost every week. I was pretty "ok" friends with him, but I didn't know him all too well. Every time he'd come in I knew exactly what he wanted and I'd get it for him. (I work at a coffee shop and I knew his favorite coffee.) Then I'd take it out to him and we'd talk for about 20-40 minutes. He was so interesting, and he and I got along so well.I stopped working on weekends so that I could play sports, and so, I didn't see him for about 3 months. I still had my job, I just worked weekdays and some weekends when I wasn't playing sports.One week I was working, I saw the guy. I got his coffee and we talked for a while. He asked where I've been and I told him that I was out for sports. He asked about it, and we had a great conversation. Then he asked me out, he said that he wanted to come with me, and watch me play. Honestly, this guy isn't sporty at all, he's artsy. But, I said, "Yeah that'd be so great!" So we smiled at each other for a while, then I didn't know what else to say. He stuttered like he wanted to say something, then he turned to leave. I wanted to say something too, but I couldn't think of anything. When he was halfway out the door, I realized... How was I supposed to contact him?! I figured that I'd see him some other time and we could hang out... But I didn't see him any other days.Unfortunately, they had to hire somebody new to take my place while I was out. I wasn't going to be gone forever, only for a few weeks, yet, they insisted on hiring someone new. I suggested my best friend, Kat. WRONG!So they hired her as expected, and after her first week of work I called her to see how it went. She told me about how much she loved it, and how nice the other employees were to her. But then, she mentioned that she saw a guy that she really liked, and she described my guy in perfect detail. I quickly told he the story of how he asked me out, and she just said, "Damn."I figured all was ok. The next week she told me that she saw the guy again and she had talked to him. She was completely geeking out over him. I mentioned again that he had asked ME out. She seemed to just shrug it off.So, the next week her and I were going to hang out, and she invited, like, 10 other people. I hate big crowds of people I don't know, so I just left. She texted me later saying that the guy was her friend's older brother! If I had stayed a few more minutes I could've talked to him! So while I was walking home, she was off hitting on that guy. And from what she told me, he was kind of cold towards her.What should I do? I might see the guy again. I HOPE so! But what should I do about my friend? I mean, if anything happens between him and I, I don't want to crush her...
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reader, sizzling1  +, writes (2 September 2010):
at this stage i'd say just relax..if he was cold to her, he probably doesn't want to date her. next time you see him, tho', try and get to know him better..you could ask if he'd like to hang out with you..maybe watch a movie, go for a drink..something like that..
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