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writes:So I've liked this guy for about 3 years, but I've never had the courage to do anything about it because I just get tongue-tied around him and it wasn't like he liked me anyway. A few weeks ago he became good friends with one of my best friends (who is in a different friendship group to mine). They went shopping one day and then to his house and people made a big deal (sad, I know). Anyways I'd been thinking for a while that I needed to get over him, because it wasn't like anything was going to happen. So I told my friend that she should go out with him because he liked her and she liked him and it just fitted. I told her I didn't like him anymore because it seemed the only way to convince her to go out with him.The next day they started going out. I convinced myself that them being together would make me get over him.That night I told her I still liked him a little bit but them being together would make me get over it. I just had to be honest with her. She was a bit annoyed that I hadn't told her this before but I told her it was for the best.But now they've been together a few weeks and I'm seeing them together, hugging, holding hands... And it hurts so much more than I ever thought it would. But I can't say anything to her because they're happy, and it wouldn't be right to get in the way of their happiness just because I still like him. I keep wondering why on earth I wanted them together because it hurts so bad, but then again, liking a guy that likes my friend isn't a good thing either.I just don't know what to do anymore, every time I see them together is like another knife through my heart and I can't handle it.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (26 February 2009):
 Well you can either choose to get help for yourself or you can tell your friend how you feel. If you want to let your friend and this guy be happy then you need someone else to focus on, firstly, pamper yourself!!!! Make yourself feel great on the outside and you'll feel better within! Dress in your best outfit when you go out next and you will feel more confident! You can buy a self help book or you can just take logical steps to getting over it. Just try not to be around your friend when she's with the guy, and limit converstion about him. If you choose to tell your friend then approach it carefully, you need to explain thouroughly how you feel. Keep me updated or msg me if you need to talk! X
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