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writes:Back in Christmas, me and my friend had this argument and we're no longer talking as she did something that no friend should ever do... (she kissed my boyfriend and said that she loves him, a few days after we just broke up, he didn't have any feelings for her and said he still loved me and she kinda chased after him for a while, made him think I was a liar and a bitch etc then when he stopped talking to her...she apologized to me, a month after she ignored me :/, she was my best friend and though i tried to forgive her, i couldn't even bring myself to be with her in person...)As the months went by, my other friends stuck it out saying: 'We're not choosing sides' etc. because we all hang out in this group but then they started to stop hanging around me. Usually when I'm with them, all they ever talk about is the friend I fell out with and the things they do together or will do together...this kept going on for months to a point where I gave up and let it get to me. I felt like they chose her over me...if you know what I mean?Just the other day I was talking to one of my friends about the whole situation and she just kept defending that friend I fell out with and said some horrible stuff about me. This isn't the first time this has happened though...Ever since we fought, I haven't spoken ill of that person. I haven't bitched about her or spread rumours or exposed her private life but that's pretty much what she did to me...and I didn't fight for myself. I just unblocked her off facebook a week ago and I can't help but just look at her page and be upset about what she's doing. Purposely making me feel bad so that I know when worse comes to worst :/My Mom said that I shouldn't try so hard to tell myself that I belong to that group because I am my own person and I don't belong there, I should go out and meet new people and make more friends and around school because I don't have many people to hang out with, I just spend time at the library...How can I deal with this whole friendship dilemma?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2010): you know i can definitely relate to this, and am of your age as well. difference is that, my ex didn't even talk to me to end it, he just started ignoring me, and i was so stupid to think he was just out of internet or something so id try any means to contact him, turned out he was ignoring, and funny thing is it happened on 15th of may. until now i haven't heard anything about him. and now he and my bestfriend (who used to pretend like she'd help me get over him) are texting and when i confronted her, she admitted the possibility of attraction in the near future. although she said that my happiness matters most and all, after that confrontation she continued to text him and meet him behind my back. and now we don't talk, but thing is hun, we shouldn't let things like these get to us, because no matter how painful it is, life has to go on. if he didn't date her, he would've dated someone else anyway. now i know it hurts cause she was a friend you constantly hung out with, but maybe if you stop talking about this to your group and just laugh about it, everything will get better. thing you could do is pretend you don't care, even though deep down you do. Whenever they bring up their names, just laugh it off and join the conversation, and then change the subject, but don't show your weakness, because the best revenge, is having a smile on your face, despite the pain they put you through. goodluck, i know you can get through it! if you need any more help, i'll be here to guide you, ill be back on this page to check up on you as well :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2010): You should deff not be friends with any of them, you dont need people like that, who are going to try and make ur life miserable. I would try to switch school soo u can meet new people and start overr.
-goood luck.
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