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writes:We were friends for only a year, but in that year alone, I feel I have been through more with her than a girl I have dated for 2. Her personality was lively. Her smile radiant and her sense of humor contagious. I did try asking her to date me but she said she couldn't simply because she wasn't ready. She had just gotten out of a marriage that she was still devastated from. Nevertheless, we clicked when we were together and there were barely dull moments. She has a three year old son and at first he didn't like my company. Now, several moths later of constant contact with him and his mom, he runs to me to give me a hug. When all three of us are out together, we often get comments like "cute family" or " you guys look good together" . She never made any attempts to correct them. Even though we were only friends, I felt like we were inseparable. That was until three weeks ago, she got a call from a relative in New York. Apparently there was a family tragedy and she needed to move to assume responsibility. She was depressed for days before the move. She didn't want to go but knew she had no choice. Two days ago, I saw her off on the airport. Sadly, she couldn't be sure if she was ever coming back. But she did say that I could visit her any time I wanted and that we should keep in touch. Unfortunately, that is an unrealistic goal seeing as how we now live thousands of miles apart. It's so depressing to know that just last week she was a mere 5 min' drive away. Now she's three states away. We use to talk/see each other 6 days a week. It's difficult knowing we may not ever see one another again.I MISS HER DEARLY. The last few days have been aimless as I ran over the memories of us together. Even though we were just friends, it seemed like she wanted a little more at the end but somehow felt it would be pointless seeing as how she was leaving. At work, there is is this pretty lady that has begun chatting me up but I can't get my friend out of my head. My sense of humor is dry and my attention elsewhere. I can see that she possibly likes me but my enthusiasm is no where to be found. How can I move on from this?
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (3 August 2014):
I'm sorry to hear that your friend has moved. It sound like a get friendship. it is true some of the best marriages are base on that friendship.
I liked that she was honest with you. She needed to work on herself before getting involved with someone else's needs. She is a smart lady! So I would take that action as a positive.
Go and visit her. She how she is doing. Don't pressure her. It sounds like a stressful time in her life. Be that friend. Who knows what the future holds for you!
Good luck!
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