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writes:okay this isnt a love problem but the thing is my best friend luke died on the 4th of september and his funeral is tomorrow, ive been asked to do a speech and i need help what do i write about and if there is some poems what people know could you give me them as well please i will tell you a bit about him so you could help me moreLuke was 16, and my best friendhe was a funny caring and popular boyhe loved sportsand loved motorbikesAny help would be appreciated thank you xJodie
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reader, AskEve +, writes (13 September 2007):
 I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. Here is a quote you might want to use...
"A friend is a hand that is always holding yours, no matter how close or far apart you may be. A friend is someone who is always there and will always, always care. A friend is a feeling of forever in the heart..."
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (13 September 2007):
 i'm sorry for your loss, be strong and the pain will get easier. as for what to say, you should try to make it personal and maybe share some of your own memories of him -things that will make people think "yeah that was JUST like him to do something like that!"and if you want to add something deeper, this was read at my friends funeral and i think it is beautiful and very true.an innocent heart is silent nowa beautiful soul at restgod broke our hearts to prove to ushe only takes the best.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (13 September 2007):
 I gave the eulogoy at my father's funeral. Here are the guidelines I followed:
1-Start with: If you could sum up everything he was in one phrase what would that phrase be? Then briefly explain it.
2-What were the three things that made him most happy in life? Talk about them, and how they made him happy. If the things that made him happy were people, THANK THEM for making him happy.
3-Give one memory of something he said to you or did to you (ideally something very recent) and share why that memory is important to you. It will be important at the end of the eulogy.
4-Here talk about why YOU will miss him. Keep it short.
5-What message do you think he would want others you or others to have? If there is one, share it. (My father came to me in a dream the night after he died to say things to me. I relayed the message at this part)
The next section is for other people. The euology is not about your grief, but about bringing relief to the others he left behind.
5-Assuming he was ill and there were people that took care of him, who are they? Name them, how he felt about them, tell how each one was special to him uniquely, and then thank them on his behalf for caring for him
6-Other than his caregivers, who were the people closest to him that are REALLY in mourning right now? Same as above:Name them, how he felt about them, tell how each one was special to him uniquely, and then thank them on his behalf for caring for him.
You will bring peace to so many people by doing the above. Only do this for people that they themselves will not be speaking at the funeral.
Celebrate his life: At the end, remind everyone to celebrate his life by: to think about their favorite memory of him, and to talk to each other ABOUT their favorite memory of him. Just like you did before.
Good Luck and My emotions are with you.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, Frank B Kermit +, writes (13 September 2007):
I gave the eulogoy at my father's funeral. Here are the guidelines I followed:
1-Start with: If you could sum up everything he was in one phrase what would that phrase be? Then briefly explain it.
2-What were the three things that made him most happy in life? Talk about them, and how they made him happy. If the things that made him happy were people, THANK THEM for making him happy.
3-Give one memory of something he said to you or did to you (ideally something very recent) and share why that memory is important to you. It will be important at the end of the eulogy.
4-Here talk about why YOU will miss him. Keep it short.
5-What message do you think he would want others you or others to have? If there is one, share it. (My father came to me in a dream the night after he died to say things to me. I relayed the message at this part)
The next section is for other people. The euology is not about your grief, but about bringing relief to the others he left behind.
5-Assuming he was ill and there were people that took care of him, who are they? Name them, how he felt about them, tell how each one was special to him uniquely, and then thank them on his behalf for caring for him
6-Other than his caregivers, who were the people closest to him that are REALLY in mourning right now? Same as above:Name them, how he felt about them, tell how each one was special to him uniquely, and then thank them on his behalf for caring for him.
You will bring peace to so many people by doing the above. Only do this for people that they themselves will not be speaking at the funeral.
Celebrate his life: At the end, remind everyone to celebrate his life by: to think about their favorite memory of him, and to talk to each other ABOUT their favorite memory of him. Just like you did before.
Good Luck and My emotions are with you.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): So sorry to hear about your very sad loss.
Try and keep it a bit upbeat. Talk about the great times you had together. Can you remember a special day out or an event you two shared? Jot down a few special moments and just string the lot together. I am sure anything you say will come across with love and understanding. Celebrate their live not mourn their death.
take care and i wish you well.
xxx
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