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*ayhem321
writes:I need some advice, I have lost my best friend and it wasn’t even my fault. My best friend and roommate Beckie (not her real name) started dating this guy called Caleb (not his real name) who is basically a jerk, he cheats on her and he is controlling. I instantly took a dislike to him because the first day that I met him he tried to hit on me and when I said no he replied oh you’re not that good looking anyway. I expressed my concerns too Beckie and told her about what he did, she just passed it off saying “oh he likes you he wants to be friends with you”. Beckie had told him that I did not like him and from that point on he saw me as an enemy and since then he has been out to make my life hell. He started rumours about me, he called me and swore at me and he even told this guy I like that I’m cheap and I’m a slut. He managed to turn Beckie against me, we no longer talk and she moved out to move in with him. Beckie told me that she picked him over me. Just the other day I was out shopping and I saw him holding hands with another girl. I honestly do not know what to do, because of this jerk I have lost my best friend and I’m a laughing stock because of all the rumours he has spread about me. Should I stay and try to work things out with Beckie and tell her what I saw, or should I leave them both behind me and move back in with my mum who lives in a different city?
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reader, mayhem321 +, writes (17 December 2010):
mayhem321 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you guys for your advice. I'm going to move in with another friend of mine. I haven't spoken to 'beckie' and she hasn't contacted me so I'm going to leave it and wait for her to find out the truth. I know she will not listen to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): Leave it alone now. Your 'best friend' is not really a friend and one day she will come up to you saying sorry and you will properly turn her away! deep down she knows he is a cheat
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reader, Liebes Kummer +, writes (16 December 2010):
Well, it is obvious that your friend is captivated by her new bf.
If he is really such a horrible person, she will find out soon enough. I'm sorry about all the rumours going round but, don't worry, the truth will come out.
Be strong and find something to keep you busy.
Leave your friend alone for no. She will come back to you when she sees the light.
Telling her what you saw will only reinforce her resolve to stay away from you.
I'm sure it is a difficult situation to be in but, don't worry, it will pass away.
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reader, x waz x +, writes (16 December 2010):
Tell your friend what you saw, but say it subtly or start talking about him first then turn into the subject and tell her, but make sure you say it so she believes you.
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