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writes:I have recently argued with my best friend. Can you please give me advice on how to organise a meeting between us. Recently someone told me that friends are never your friends if you are quite rich and she when we last argued told me she only liked me because of my money. But I saw her crying later on and I dont think its the whole truth. I want to tell her the advantages of having a good friend and the qualities she could bring to the relationship between me and her but recently I have been wondering what they are. What are the aspects of a positive lasting relationship. Please help.Rift (16)
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reader, Ask Heather +, writes (16 April 2007):
 We all say things in "The heat of the Moment", and I think you realise that this is the case here; although it stung. It was said to sting; but, within moments was regreted. I feel sure she already knows the advantages of having a true friend; and like you, is already feeling the loss. It`s real great when you meet someone you can really "connect with", and from the hurt that comes through in your letter, I guess you felt this way with your Best friend. My advise?, Instead of having a "meeting" with her, how about dropping her a letter; explaining how you were hurt, and saying exactly why instead of being vague or rambling. When she reads it, in private, she will see what she came so close to losing, which I believe she knows already. This Friendship, I think will get over "this little hiccup", I think it would be a shame to loose touch with someone you get on well with, over silly words spoken that wern`t meant. The Aspects of a Positive, Lasting Relationship? I think Forgiveness features quite high, and from the wording of your letter, I know you have this to give. With Love, Heather.
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reader, kenny +, writes (16 April 2007):
 I think the comment about her saying she only likes you because of her money was just said on the spur of the moment and i din't think she meant it as she cried after. I would be inclined to give her the benefit of the doubt, give her a call and go for a coffy somewhere. Tell how much of a good friend she is to you, and how much you value you friendship.
To make a good friendship last i guess its based on being there for one another, keeping in touch, being there in times of need, and most importantly honesty.
Good luck x
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