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writes:I currently have a girlfriend, and I love her and care a lot about her. My best friend is a girl, and she really really likes me. I care about her a lot also, and the truth is sometimes I feel like I am closer with her than my girlfriend. The problem is I feel so strongly for my girlfriend, and I could never break her heart, especially not for my best friend (my best friend and girlfriend are also friends)
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reader, Holli'  +, writes (13 January 2010):
 I agree with Strontiumdog that you can have care about someone alot, however it doesn't have to be sexual. I'm sure you understand how Girlfriends are diffrent than Friends, you can care about them both, it's the way you love them that seperates the two, you love your girlfriend for reasons like attraction to her, you might gradually fall in love with her, but it's the difference between being in love and loving somebody. You love your friend because she helps you, she'll go out to places with you, she gives you confidence all of with make your bond stronger, and also because a good strong friendship isn't easy to destroy, a intimate or dating kind of a relatonship is fragile in it's early days. Ask your self these questions ...
Am I confident around both girls?
Am I myself when I'm around both Girls?
Can I talk to each girl about my Problems without worrying about the effect it could take on their feelings.
You may find you are a lot more careful with what you say to your girlfriend because she's your girlfriend. Unlike your best friend who is there all the time for any kind of problem. I'd say your grateful, care about and love your best friend, mabey she feels more like a sister to you. You have the same feelings for your girlfriend, you just love her in a different way.
Hope this helped.
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reader, Caldeca +, writes (13 January 2010):
well i think its f--ed up if you even consider staying with your gf. your just in it because you dont want to hurt her. but the longer you stay with your GF the worst she will be. it prefer my heart to be broken ASAP instead of long time of lies. Also ask yourself what do you want out of a relationship with your G.F and your Best Friend?I have a best friend right now girl as well. i want more for sure and i want to get serious. but im in no position to do that. love makes stuff complicated and stupid. i'll just wait when time is right.
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