A
female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:A bit of background: my best friend (A) has had 2 boyfriends before. With the first one, she just casually dated him for like a month and then they split up. Then she had her second boyfriend, who she was in love with. He was an asshole, cheated on her millions of times, and really messed her up. She continued to like him. The summer after they broke up (about a year after) they started to hook up again, but that stopped, and about 4 months after their last "hook up" she saw her first boyfriend again. They got back together, and she started to really like him, but he began to cheat on her too. She was really upset for a bit and then started this "friends with benefits" type deal where they would meet up and hook up (by hookup i mean make out). She started saying weird stuff, like when a boy we knew told his girlfriend he'd rather have her than any victorias secret model, she said "ugh he's obviously lying". And that she doesn't care if her boyfriends are assholes to her, only if they're hot and that she's holding out for that georgous guy with the great personality. She's also said stuff like "all guys cheat". Her mom never knew about her boyfriends, and she sneaks out to meet up with her FWB. Last night she told me she snuck out at 1, and went to her FWB's house. They did shots and went to 2nd base and almost third, with no clothes on. She keeps telling me how much she likes him and he keeps telling her how bad he wants to fuck her and maybe get back together. I feel like she's going to lose her virginity to him and honestly it scares me. We're 15! And shes not on the pill and he could have something, he's done it loads of times. I know it isn't my place, but it scares me. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2012): Hes just horny, and has really no feelings for her, if he did they would be together, been there, done that.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 March 2012):
 You are right to be concerned that makes you a really good friend. It sounds to me like your friend has really low self esteem probably because all she has ever knowing is that guys cheat on her, so she is fragile at the moment and still quite young. Yes it does sound like she might do something that she could regret at a later stage. Why not sit down with her and tell her you are worried about her. Obviously you cannot stop her from doing these things, and she needs to learn not to let these guys use her because that is all that they are doing. She needs to learn that for herself though and have more respect and confidence for herself and her body. I guess really all you can do for her is tell her you are worried about her and that you are there for her.
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