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writes:This is for the men or women who have dealt with this . Is it normal for first time dads to panic and get "cold feet?"Basically semi lose it even of they are in their 40s or 30s?This is what I am going through right now . Baby due in August and daddy to be is freaking out . It's his first child.Just want to know if this is normal ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answer . I am glad there is hope . His behavior has been really not himself . He lives with his parents now too. He won't talk to me :( it's been almost two weeks. Is that what happened with you ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2011): I'm going through the same thing. My man is a little younger than yours, but still older than the majority of men fathering a first child. I unexpectedly got pregnant and he stuck around to help take care of me until I was 3 months along, and then he got cold feet. Everything seemed fine until one day he just packed all his things, told me he didn't want a kid, and went back to live with his parents so he wouldn't be in the same house as me. He said he asked me to have an abortion and since I was against it, it's all my responsibility now because I made my choice and he didn't get a say in it. What he doesn't realize is that an abortion is not a "quick fix". Women who get them can end up usually regretting it or at least can get depressed over it and I didn't think I could handle it. He never seemed like the immature type that would ever do something like that either.Anyway, I am now 4 months along and he has started to come back into the picture. He's warming up slowly but surely. He had his little break down, and now we are back together although not living together again. He wants to help name the baby and goes to all of my obgyn appointments. He isn't completely where he needs to be yet, but he is making huge progress. So I think your man might be going through the same thing. Maybe just let him have his little meltdown and see what happens. I bet he'll come to his senses and man up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe baby was a huge surprise for both of us. We both took precautions .
We had talked marriage . Things have been going great and as of late he flaked out .
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): It's normal if the child was unplanned and he doesn't want marriage and kids with you in particular or anyone in general.
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