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writes:I was in love with my boyfriend of two years. But his dad got this promotion and he had to move to a different country. We talked about being in a long distance relationship, but with the time difference it became too hard for us. And we ended it. We really did try but it was just too much of a struggle. Its was a year before i could actually move on. Now I am in a relationship with my best friend. We have been dating for 9 months. He was there for me after my ex moved away and he made me feel better. Along the way we realized we had feelings for each other and decided to be more than friends. But now the first guy has moved back. And is now attending the same school, He told me he misses me and wants me back. I'm really confused on what to do. Should I stay with my boyfriend or go back to my ex? I really don't want to hurt anyone.
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reader, Noczy  +, writes (27 February 2011):
 Why you end the relation? I dont understand. (I wont tell you what to do, cuz Im nobody to tell it, just I tell you my opinion... and by the way im in the same situation).
Im from Hungary (Middle Europe). My boyfriend is from India (Asia, I guess you know that:) ). We met on the Internet in the summer. We were planning to meet here... After 6 months waiting(!!!!!!!!!!) he could arrange to come here... I was the happinest person in this World! We were talking all night, even there is something 4,5 hours different... But we didnt care, cuz we loved eachother a lot. Now unfortunately his visa got over, so he went back. We were crying a lot, but its not a quastion if we keep the relation or not. We are talking everyday (even now Im waiting for him, go online). Im trying to help him going back, but in fact I know now he cant go back... So I will go in the Summer... But if I ask myself is it worth? Theres nothing else to think... cuz I really love him more than my life... I could do anything for him. Anything, and Im not kidding...
So what I want to say with this... Maybe you wont like this idea, but if you couldnt fight that time for him, than why should you continue a relation which didnt worth a fight? If you move on and forget him, and be with another boy, then I dont think it was love actually. And now you are happy with that boy? If yes, then why should you break up with him? He is your best friend too, if you break up you will lose your love and your best friend... And break up for a boy you couldnt fight? I dont think its the best opportunity.
BUT DONT EVER FORGET! Its your life, do whatever you feel!! Im here just giving you tips... telling you my story. But even Im a human-being, Im mistaken lots of times too :)
So good luck, wish you to be very happy with your choice!!!
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (27 February 2011):
 If the boy you are with now treats you well and you have no reason to want to break up with him (other than the old bf moving back) then don't. It wouldn't be fair. The old bf should understand and respect your decision.
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