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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been having sex for about a month now and it doesn't last very long.We do some foreplay but almost as soon as he's inside me he has to cum. We've tried taking breaks, I usually don't give him oral before we have sex because it makes it that much quicker. We've tried different positions. We've even had sex waited a half hour or so and go at it again but, he still cums within minutes. Last thing we'really going to try is condoms, but since I'm allergic to latex it gets a little pricey. All of these solutions were his idea, he really does want to please me. There's only been one or two times this month where he lasted about 45 minutes and it was amazing!He lasts awhile if I give him just oral, its just once he's in me its all over. Starting to get to the point where I think I'm just really tight. I even brought it up to him about me being too tight but he doesn't want to come to that conclusion. We've slept together in the past but the thing is we werent quite sober so it lasted awhile.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (28 December 2012):
Take it from a man's point of view - I think in a way its a blessing. Ive been a 45-60 minute guy my whole life. I know nothing of "quickies" - its just not going to happen that way for me. Trust me, there are many nights Im already a bit tired and wish I could just go like 15 min and nod off to sleep. Just doesnt happen for me that way, and it can be exhausting sometimes.
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (26 December 2012):
Sounds like you know a solution, keep a few bottles of wine at hand! You have only been together for a month so he is really excited. As already mentioned, the only sure improvement is a lot more sex. In the short term, make him wait during foreplay until you are just about to come, then his 30 seconds should be fine for you both. Your tightness, which can get quite a bit tighter still as you are about to cum, makes his orgasm uncontrollable. Condoms will definitely help but maybe just getting him to give you your extra bit of attention first is all thats needed. Best is for him to give you oral until you are really ready. Or practice with 69. If he has to concentrate on what he is doing to you it helps him last longer. Just keep trying, as they say, practice makes perfect.
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reader, N91  +, writes (26 December 2012):
 I don't agree with CMMP's view on porn and quick ejaculation. I have watched a lot of porn in my time, but have NEVER ejaculated in less than 30 minutes of intercourse and that's including foreplay. Even the first time I had sex it lasted about 45 minutes. It's even gotten to the stage where I can't lol.
Try not to dwell on it and make a huge deal over it or it will definitely make it worse and he is more likely to become even more stressed.
Just keep at it and I'm pretty sure over time he will be able to last longer, just remain as supportive of him as you can until it becomes less of a problem.
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reader, justaguy71  +, writes (26 December 2012):
If you can, tell him to masturbate to just before he cums and stop and keep doing that until he lasts longer etc. And when he is in you and feels he's about to cum, make him pull out and cool off and then go in again when less sensitive. Just know that from a guys perspective, it does suck, we would love to go on all night. When I started dating my wife, we would go for hours, it was amazing, I don't know why it was so long, maybe lots of sex and good fitness level, I would do just about anything to go back to that point in my life!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (26 December 2012):
I doubt you're too tight (or at least that's not the issue), it's mostly psychological.I'm no expert, but there is one cause of this that you should consider: watching porn. When guys watch porn (and masturbate without it to some extent) they are basically training themselves to be minute men. If he watches porn ask him to stop for a while to see what happens; it wont change overnight, but after a while it could help.Try not to make a big deal out of it, this things require patience, so while it may be frustrating, if you let your frustration get the best of you it could spell the end of your relationship.
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