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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend of about 2 months is starting to irk my soul and I suppose I really don't know how to deal with it.Last Thursday evening we were going to hang out after he got cleaned up, that didn't happen though. I got one txt from him that said he didn't realize he was so tired and then didn't hear from him for the rest of the night... he apologized the next day, however this really isn't the first time something like this has happened.I figured the following Friday evening we would hang out since he "fell asleep" the night before, because he wants to see me, but I feel like that thought never even crossed his mind. He decided to go to a club with his friends from work, to which I was clearly upset and just decided I'd rather not deal with him.It went down something like this;He told me he was thinking about going, I said well have a great night at work and going out then said i was busy and decided to not talk to him. He knew I was bothered and tried to say something like "I wont go if you don't want me to go" but he still wanted to go, so i just said i could really care less what you do don't put that on me.He tried to call once, but i was busy and told him I couldn't talk, that was while he was still at work......I didn't hear anything from him until I txted him the next day at 4....I was under the impression he was going to go for a few and then go home right after that..... and I would have assumed that happened if he didn't have battle wounds from the night.....*His side ached, so he casually said it was from sleeping on a chair...(meaning he didnt go home)....*He had scraps all over his leg....(because he fell at the club)...THATS all i know about his night....He never talks to me about his late nights out, or how they go.... I usually only hear a little bit and that's if he has "battle wounds" to show for it.The last time he went out after work he was supposed to come home and hang out with me, but txting soon stopped and i didn't hear from him until the next day... he claimed he spend the night at one of his buddy from work house, i found out a week later from his blabber mouth co worker that he slept at a girls house from work...... WHICH he made certain I knew before him and i started to officially date that she was ALL over him at an earlier party of theirs and that shes a weirdo when they are drunk. So I already didn't care for her too much.He cares for me, I know he does, but all these little petty things really make me second guess his feeling of importance of our relationship, and I'm not really sure how to deal with it.My previous relationship before him, we would have never gone out like that without each other....However, I am not 21 yet, and he is over 21, so usually I can't go out out with him, but even sometimes he just goes out to parties without me....How to handle this situation.... I've casually mentioned that this is an incredibly different relationship for me, and that I expect a lot from him... but he just doesn't seem to get it...I think it may come second nature to me to put myself in his position before I do anything, and think about how I would feel about something he did if i was about to do it....but he doesn't do that... and hes admitted that he doesn't....
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2009): dump him he treats u bad
dont be a doormat
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