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writes:I've been with my Argentine boyfriend on and off for 11 years. At first the relaionship was running smooth, gradually he would avoid me. I wouldn't hear from him in days sometimes weeks. When I call him he doesn't answer or his sister would tell me that he's asleep or not at home. On to this day it happens sometimes. Finally when I do hear from him he tells me that he thinks that I am cheating, from that he said that he think that I've been with a married man, after that he tells me that he doesn't want to go next to or in my car. He said "I don't know what you have done in there." The glass to my car is clear, it's not tinted. He later claims that he saw me driving on some road and I looked at him, I don't even recall what he is talking about. If I have a bruse on my arm or knee that also creates a fight. Every moment of my life I have to explain and prove to him. If he speaks to me on the phone now, he has to hear from me within the next hour or he starts creating nonsense in his mind. Sometimes I'm afraid to take a nap incase if he text, I don't want to fight with him. My mom doesn't want to hear anything from me, because she is tired of our fights. I feel like I can't be myself with him. He says that he loves me and he wants to marry me. Whenever we fight he ingnores me complete, sometimes for weeks to months. Is that right.I love him with my all, I would give anything for him, but I don't know what to do or think of it.
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reader, nazeena +, writes (28 March 2011):
nazeena is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes I have been told many times that he has be programed..especially after so many, many years. He bluntly told that he went to a physic, and that he has writen my name in a book. I do personal question his love. He the sweetest and loving person, but when he gets drunk and smokes the weed...well I'm nothing. I feel like when I want to say something I have to process it 3 times before saying it.
I have to thank everyone for there inputs. You have all help me realize that I do need to get out before it is too late. As of right now this moment, we broke up, due to the same fact he feels that I am cheating. He tells me not to contact him or text him, but on the other hand, he's texting me and telling me that no one will never love me or take care of me the way he did.
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reader, nazeena +, writes (27 March 2011):
nazeena is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm Guayanese and my bf is half Argentinian/Italian. I love him and I know that he loves me but we tend to fight too, too much. We are 11 years apart, he met me when I was 16/17. We have more fights than good times. He tells me that he knows that I am cheating on him. I've told him over a thousand times that I never cheated and he still believe that I am lying for 11 years I've been accused of this. I've told him if I was cheating on him and if I wanted someone else would I wasted 11 years with him. He gets angry and starts smoking and drinking. I would get text saying I hope you die you puta, I hate you, If you die i would come just to piss and spite on you. Then when I say it over he tells me "i love you and if you love you would try to keep us together." I am having with my parents for this guy. I have to makes excuses and lie to see him and it hurts to do that. Everything he says I have to listen, accept and believe him, according to him he doesn't believe anything that comes out of my mouth. This year was the first time ever he has given me something for Valentine's day. I've never once received anything for my birthday. Yes he has taken me out for dinner, but that's it. Everything that I give him, he throws it back at me whenever we get into a fight. Jan.28th 2011 he give me back a chain with a cross, that i had given him for Christmas. that was when thought that I was pregnant. He told me that he doesn't believe it is his child that he wants a DNA. Then he texted me and said "i would be damn if I let you keep it." I don't expect a gift from him, all I want is to be happy, love, and have a family with him. Is that too much to ask? When I fight back and stand up for myself he calls me every bad name in the book. He then tells me that if I stay with him that he will cheat on me...2 days later, he says lets work things out. I've love you and I don't want to lose you, I want to spend my life with you.He would tell me that he doesn't even want to think of me being with someone else. He had once texted me and said "I'm starting to become obsessed. He then told me that he went to a physic, and he wrote my name in some book. I don't understand anything anymore...there is just too much that I don't understand.I think I should write a book on my relationship.
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reader, nazeena +, writes (27 March 2011):
nazeena is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI used to be happy always, but I hit the point where I feel like he is the only one for me. I lost who I am. I feel I have to be the person he wants. He tells me that when we are apart he is always at home, and doesn't go anywhere, but then he turns it on me saying "I'm sure you must have went out and met someone."...My heart is drowning in the deep ocean.Thank you all so much for your suggestions. I need to pull myself together, and stand up for myself. I can't let my love for him keep me in the relationship, while he treats me like a door mat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): He already has you indoctrinated, accusations, not taking your calls, everything is on his terms yet I bet he can be the sweetest man when he wants to. It's a massive red flag when someone is accusing of something you haven't done, so whats the logical conclusion to this if you get married? Extreme paranoia? Checking your phone? Maybe you might not be allowed to even leave the house. This is abuse plain and simple.
Unavailable for weeks and months? Even his sister is helping him in avoiding you? And somehow after this you have done something wrong? Unhealthy, unhealthy, unhealthy! Run and hide! Love is about respect, trust and honesty. Find a man who displays these and you have someone actually worth investing yourself into...not this loser.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): Get out of this relationship now! Your in a toxic one. He will eventually sap your confidence to zero and it will take you longer to leave because you will not be able to see you deserve better and be respected. I know its a cliche but it sound like your Mum has your best interest at heart and this guy just isnt the guy for you hunny. Take care and and look out for no 1, you !
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): He is probably cheating and it sounds like during your off periods, he is with other women. I would dump him and find someone who can be faithful.
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