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male
age
30-35,
*cclareng3
writes:Its been three months since my break up with my ex and alot of things have happened. Now after talking for some time we decided that we want to go out soon, but the only thing stopping me is that she recently liked this guy and spent 5 nights over his place and they had sex twice. Its hurts a lot because I too had sex but didn't like the person as much as she liked him. We both lost it together and we both discussed how the innocence is gone between us, we also went out for 3 years. The day she came back from the guys house, they had a get together with some friends at her house and then she called me telling me how much I mean to her and that I'm the only guy she wants and we argued because she told she made out with the guy, so I saw her two days later and she told me she made out with the guy again! the same day she told me how she felt about me. It hurt a lot and I'm very confused at this moment, We had sex that day because I was caught up in the moment but In reality I cant get it through my head that she had sex with this guy and If she's worth going out with again.I know were single and we both have the right to do anything but I don't know do I get out of her life or do I stay in her life and see how things go? Am I ever going to accept what she she did or am I always going to have resentment towards her? How do I fix this feeling I'm having?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 April 2011):
 Well it is only you that can decide if you can give her a chance or not. In reality she hasnt done anything wrong therefore there is nothing here to forgive. You just need to accept reality and accept that you are not the only guy she has been with now and the same for her she is no longer the only girl that you have been with.
You need to think about how you feel for this girl and if she is worth fighting for. Obviously there was a reason why you both split up in the first place I think you need to think about that reason and ask yourself if it is still there. I guess if you are both serious about each other then just take things slow and dont put pressure on yourselves. Also dont have sex with her either until you are serious about her. Goodluck.
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