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writes:Hey guys. I complain about cheating in relationship, butI'm the one who cheated. I was a nympho until I met this person who I really love. I changed for him, and we lived happily until the troubles started to appear between us. I began to talk with other guys on Fb about sex and about drama. Then I showed him that so he left me and told me, 'You will never change'. I want him and I'm ready to change again but he don't want me.And he will travel away after 1 month. I really need a good help from you guys to make him love me again. I threatenedsuicide but he didn't change his mind. I'm thinking to make him a surprise, but I don't know how and don't know if it's gonna change anything. Please guys say anything that can help Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (23 February 2016):
 Threatening suicide is emotional blackmail. It's unfair and a low blow. Do you understand that?
[Your follow up says that you had sexual intercourse with many men. There are still many questions to follow up.]
Your flag shows as Egypt, what does the word "nympho" mean in Egypt? There are differences in cultures.... What is normal in one culture might be completely unacceptable in another, even within the same country.
Are you living with him? (does that shock you that I ask?)
Do your family know him? If not, why not?
Does his family know you? If not, why not?
And finally, you can't make someone love you. There are no tricks. And threatening suicide is not going to help you. It'll just make you look like a very dramatic and foolish person who thinks only of herself.
What did your mother and sisters say about this?
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reader, lil belloia +, writes (22 February 2016):
lil belloia is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes I did flired and have sex with anyone but that is before him
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (22 February 2016):
Threatening suicide is emotional blackmail. It's unfair and a low blow. Do you understand that?
What do you mean by the term "nympho"? Someone who flirts a bit with other men? Someone who has sex with many men?
Your flag shows as Egypt, what does the word "nympho" mean in Egypt? There are differences in cultures.... What is normal in one culture might be completely unacceptable in another, even within the same country.
Are you living with him? (does that shock you that I ask?)
Do your family know him? If not, why not?
Does his family know you? If not, why not?
And finally, you can't make someone love you. There are no tricks. And threatening suicide is not going to help you. It'll just make you look like a very dramatic and foolish person who thinks only of herself.
What did your mother and sisters say about this?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 February 2016):
 You say you really loved him, but talking intimately with other men is not a good move on your part, this was leading you down a bad road. If you where having relationship problems you should have both been working to fix them not chatting to other men. I can see why he would find it hard to trust you. When you cheat on someone it can be very devastating for them. It can ruin there self esteem for there life, make them paranoid. Maybe you are not ready for a relationship yet.
You are now ready to change but he does not trust you so therefore there would be no point him being in a relationship with you. You can't make someone love you. Either they do or they don't. You cannot make feeling happen you just need to accept that you messed up and learn from your mistakes. By you threatning suicide this just showed him more that he doesn't want to be with you. This shows you are very immature, and your not thinking about anybodies feelings here but yourself. Don't make him anything, the best advice I have for you is to leave him alone, and learn to improve yourself before you get in to another relationship.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 February 2016):
 People don't just go cheat because there are troubles in the relationship. Or because they have a high sex drive. Usually it's because they have self esteem issues or have an excessive need for male approval and attention. You can say you love him but he needs a girl who can love without falling apart and getting distracted when things aren't rosy all the time.
Using suicide as a threat is really a sign that you are not ready for a mature relationship. You were attempting to use drama as a way to change his mind. Sometimes even when partners amend their ways and be a better person. The sting is there forever and forgiving is easier said than done. The best thing to do is to own up to your mistakes and promise it would never happen again with another guy.
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