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writes: Ok, I know it sounds weird but although I'm 16 I preach, a lot, and it means a lot to me. Because of what preaching means to me I cannot have sex or anything resembling sex, or I try at least, and I think it has an affect on my relationship because this is something my girlfriend isn't used to, and even though when I joke about she says "You're a preacher" I think she takes it to heart. What can I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2006): if she keeps pressuring you dump her virginity is very important preshious and scaresd welldone its harder for a young male
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reader, StonePrincess +, writes (11 August 2005):
 You might try a blace of not doing things to sexual like oral or other wise, but maybe touching, women like to be felt and know their men are enjoying them. After even kissing is considered sexual and it's not bad to be intimate, sometimes that's the only way to know how strong you feel and it brings a great sense of comfort to know someone that closly and can really make you feel at ease with yourself and your mate, but you don't have to resort to sex, but try givng her a little attention or at if your dead set on this you better make it clear right away, and be understanding woman need much more physical attention then men, we want to know and feel how you feel.
Waiting until marrige is a good garantee of not losing a special gift and regreting to have to tell your next mate. but anyone will understand if you are intimate with someone you really like and will still respect you very much for saving yourself even if you did a few intimate things.
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reader, kt  +, writes (18 July 2005):
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she cant make you do anything you dont want to do, tell her straight that you dont want to. sex isnt something that you just do wait untill your ready even if it means untill your married, i think what your doing is great! tell your gf that you just like kissing and that she has to except you for who you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2005): Maybe you need some balance? Life doesn't have to bee black or white, good or evil, religous or non-religous. Most people pick and choose what suits them.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (14 July 2005):
 You are very young and not everyone is having sex at your age anyway!
Does preaching mean you can't have sex until you are married, assuming you can get married?
I think you need to be straight with your girlfriend and make her aware of how you feel about sexual intimacy and let her know the boundaries. It wouldn't be fair on her if she isn't aware of this.
She may wish to have a sexual relationship and if you aren't able to fulfil that part of the relationship, then she should know this. You say she isn't used to this but I wonder how old she is and if she has had a lot of sexual relationships before you. If she has, she may think that eventually you will come round to her way of thinking. It is up to you to either demonstrate a determined sense of control or to not be with someone who has these expectations of you.
You could indeed reassure her that you want to be with her but seriously consider the future and all the aspects involved.
I hope this helps.
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