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anonymous
writes:My son who is 9 received a digital camera for christmas. when i looked at it to day he has taken pictures of his privates on it. should i be concerned or is he just curious etc?please help!
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reader, SugarCookie  +, writes (13 January 2009):
I think he is just curious and its probably easier for him to see with a picture than a mirror. The only thing that you might want to address is that the pictures are private and should not be shown to other. Especially e-mailed. Just make sure that he know that the law is gettting crazy with under age pictures and that he can be arrested for child porn against himself (stupid I know but true)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2009): hi, I am the original poster of this question.
thank you all for taking the time to reply.
I am always in the room when my son uses the computer...which is a rare occurence,it is in our living area. I know 100% that he has not been in any chat rooms and has not seen anything he shouldn't, he just plays games on it occasionally.
So...i think he just did it for his own amusement, he seems to find body parts very funny!
I asked him if i could see his camera and he gave it me and when i saw the rude pics I asked him why he had taken them, he went really red and seemed to have forgotten he'd taken them. I asked to delete them and explained that the camera is taking pictures of other things and it is not really appropriate to be taking ones of himself. He just seemed a bit embarrassed really, then carried on playing as normal.
We have had a talk in the past about adults that can make children do things they shouldn't because he has seen things on the news, and I have made it clear that he can tell me anything and he would never be in trouble.
I also said it is normal to be interested in your body.
thakn you again for all your help, hopefully there's nothing to worry about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): If you have this or if you don't you should get a program that monitors his activity on the computer. You could set up Parental Controls and view activity reports. I wouldn't be concerned with him taking pictures except you have to worry about who he is sending it to. Does he know how to upload pictures onto the computer? Be sure you get numbers of friends houses he is going to and make sure he is really there. If he is taking pics for someone he thinks is a girl and it's really an older man this could end very badly. Do you have his internet passwords or does he not use the computer?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): thankyou for your responses!
no he has not started puberty yet.
He does use the internet but I closely keep an eye on him , he should not have seen anything inappropriate.
I have bought him up not to be ashamed of his body and he is no way shy...I will speak to him about why he has done this and explain that it is not really appropriate. thanks again
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): Yes, he is curious but I would advise you to please ask him what purpose it is serving to take photos of his genitalia. Especially at this young age? I do think it's highly inappropriate for a 9 year old boy, to be taking snapshots of this portion of his body. I think it could even be a dangerous practise, depending on the following. I have to ask you a touchy question and please don't take it the wrong way. If he is typical of kids these days and spends some time on the internet..please, please, please ensure that there is no co-ercion by someone pretending to be another kid. A parent has to watch for predators and deviants on the net, these days. You have to know where he surfs and what he's up to. With kids so active on the internet and in chat rooms, messengers and connecting through emails. I would discourage him from doing this. Let him know, that this camera was given to him to photograph special events, school chums (head shots), family members, scenery, etc. Encourage to take photos of other things, other than his body parts. Good luck, Mom and just set some boundaries. Do it nicely but let him know what the rules are with this camera's use. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): has he reached puberty?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): there's no need to be curious about this as for it could be due to bullying by people saying it could be wee. speak to him about it and tell him your not cross with him but you just want to know the reason why he done it.
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reader, Jmo +, writes (2 January 2009):
 I don't think you really need to be concerned. I think you just need to have a talk with him regarding what is inappropriate.
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