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writes:I have only been married for one year. I am in my60's. My husband is 75. He is having an affair with a 29 year old girl. I love my husband. Ido not want to leave him. I am devastated. He denies it all. The psychological abuse is overthe top. I am afraid and so confused. Please help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2013): You need to show yourself some respect and move him out your house while YOU decide what happens next.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2013): I assure you the 29 year old woman is not attracted to him she is only using him for money and hoping for an inheritance. He will get his karma when she dumps him or cheats on him with a hotter younger guy. You've only been married one year to him. You can walk away and laugh when she dumps him or cheats on him and he acts all surprised to learn that a woman in her twenties doesn't really find a 75 year old guy sexually attractive.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (5 April 2013):
 I am sorry to see that you are going through this.
Assuming you have absolute proof on this, I think the first hurdle you have to face is the fact that your husband is cheating on you. That means he is sleeping with someone else and doesn't really care what impact that will have on you. Whether this is physical cheating (i.e. sex or emotional cheating) he has betrayed you.
I think you need to realize that the man you are in love with -- isn't the man you married and the illusion needs to be broken. In a sense, you are kissing the boot that has kicked you... I assume you are still recovering from the shock and hurt -- especially so soon into your marriage but you must come to grips with the reality of who he is.
I agree with the other answerer here... you need to decide what you want to do. Is this grounds for divorce? Are you willing to overlook this and let him seek our his pleasures outside the bounds of marriage? Are you going to insist that he stops seeing her? Or do you cut your losses now and move on with the rest of your life? Also your decision should be based upon whether he is truly repentant (and whether you can actually trust him from here on out).
These are answers that only YOU can answer. If you have the means, you may want to seek out counseling or a therapist to help you make up your mind. They may also possibly help you determine what went wrong: did he drift away because he is a man incapable of monogamy? Is there a lack of intimacy in your relationship? Did you withhold sex from him? Is their an emotional disconnect with one another? etc.
It is my sincerest hope that you take action -- I urge you to seek help from a trusted confidant. You are going to need a lot of support and your decision won't be an easy one.
Eddie
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