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writes: I have a 74 -year-old college professor who tries to flirt and have sex with me and other female students. Plus he is always in my face. I try to ignore him and tell him that he is making me feel very uncomfortable, but that doesn't seem to work. I am only 20 years old, and I find that behavior down right disgusting and intimidating.(That guy could practically be my great-grandpa!)According to the college handbook, that behavior is very unacceptable, especially if it is unwanted, like I see it. How could I get this man to realize that his behavior is unwanted and unacceptable to young women such as I?
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (1 September 2006):
 If its a UK based uni, just report him to the student union (or council... I cant remember now...). Get some of your students to also put in a complaint so you'll have a stronger case. After that, either he'll fix his ways or you can laugh at his downfall:-D
Dont worry about exam paper markings, you use your exam ID number, not your name so he'd never be able to tell which paper is yours (and if he doesn't mark your papers in the first place, you got nothing to worry about!)
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reader, bonym +, writes (31 August 2006):
 Dr Psych is right, to me whether he is 24, 34, 54, 64 or 74 it doesnt matter, his behaviour is dispicable and needs to be addressed. You need to speak to someone in the college about it and dont put it off, do it now and make sure they put a stop to it. xXx
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (31 August 2006):
 I don't think his age is an issue really but this behaviour steps over the line on lots of levels. You must have a college tutor you can speak to - sometimes a 'friendly word' comes better from a colleague. You may have a college counsellor who can give you confidential advice or a women's advisor on campus. Perhaps the first thing to do would be to confront him - but gently - by saying that you would prefer it if he maintained a distance as you don't like his 'hands on' teaching style! But keep it polite and see if that does the trick - many predators get their thrills from the secrecy of their behaviour (they feel their victims are too scared or embarrassed to say anything). If that doesn't work then try contacting your college authorities.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2006): If you have told him that his behaviour is unacceptable and others feel uncomfortable, perhaps yourself and one or two others can go and speak to someone who is higher up than him and report his behaviour.
Things like this are very dangerous because some girls might feel pressured to do something or may feel uncomfortable and upset and don't say anything. It is sexual harrassment and is unacceptable - especially in a learning environmnent.
It sounds like the college needs to be aware of this - I recommend reporting his behaviour.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2006): Have you told him flat out that his behavior is unwanted and unacceptable? If that doesn't work, you should probably go to the Dean of the college or the head of the professor's department. They will take care of it for you. It may help to go with a group of females that feel the same way as you do if you feel uncomfortable going alone. Good luck.
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