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writes:My 15-year-old friend is dating her estranged fathers brother who is 38! They've had sex at least 10 times and she thinks she has fallen in love with him!This is disgusting! It's incest!At her party he was acting all sleazy around her, just rubbing her in really "inappropriate" ways when she was chatting to her friends... i thought i was going to be sick! But i haven't told her how i feel. I have actually chatted to him, and he comes across as really cheesy, stupid and horny; i was quite surprised he didn't try and chat up me! After all I'm only a year younger than my friend and that's obviously his taste!!!She's shown me some of his text messages. They were nearly all invitation for sex, or maybe one or two "i love you!".My opinion is that she's looking for a father figure and he's just a slimy pervert!She is a lovely girl and a good friend, but there is no way i can support her having sex with this pedophile! Her mother knows nothing about it, and her dad hasn't seen her since she was three-years-old. Am i being a bad friend by not supporting her? What should i do??
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reader, LouiseW +, writes (23 February 2010):
I to am 15 and have just found out im 7 weeks pregnant with my Uncles baby we were both drunk after a party and it happened only the once but now im having his baby and dont know what to do, tell your friend to stop it straight away i deeply regret what happened to me and now have to face upto this dont know what im going to do.
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reader, creativity +, writes (5 April 2009):
this needs to stop !! if u are realy a good friend u should tell her mum !!!! that realy bad
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reader, Cap.10.Howdy  +, writes (17 January 2009):
It doesn’t appear to me like your girlfriend is an imbecile needing your input and under compulsion to comply with your judgment standards of interpersonal behavior. They might really be in love! Who knows? They might just be having a good time! Is this 38 yo your boyfriend? Would you like him to be? Who the hell cares? The age of consent in some parts of the US is 14, y’know! Adolescents of all cultures and religious denominations are enjoined in Holy Matrimony with each other or (much) older suitors all over the world including Europe and the USA. And these almost exclusively do not exhibit any of the ‘typical symptoms’ associated with victims of child sexual abuse that our learned psychology pundits wish for us to believe is attributed to pedophilia. Mary was 12 or 13 when she had Jesus. Charles V married a 9 yo girl. The Late Jerry Lee Lewis married his 13 yo cousin which caused brouhaha with the self-righteous press! And they really didn’t give a rat’s ass whether or not it was OK in your books. I doubt whether your friend is asking for or needing your support or that of other juvenile xenophobic mental paraplegics. I’m sure you must be having your share of skeletons in the cupboard to be guarded against someone sticking their ne’er-do-well nose in your panties. Right? RIGHT! So keep out of hers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2008): this is disgusting. this guy needs to go to jail right now. having sex with a 15 year old when your 38, and your own family member. thats wrong. he should go to jail. report him.
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reader, Rachelh +, writes (12 November 2008):
I have just come across your forum and I was hoping you might be able to help me.We are currently looking for people to take part in our new film and I was hoping you might be able to help. Our new project for the highly regarded Channel 4 documentaries department are two stand alone films that look at sexuality, virginity and relationships amongst young people – but instead of asking experts and academics we are interested in finding out what young people think themselves. Our two films will feature a small group of young people and provide them with a chance to talk about life as they see it, and we hope it will be a positive and exciting opportunity for everyone involved. It will be non-judgmental and aims to have a refreshing outlook on how teenagers really behave.We are specifically looking for outgoing, confident and articulate young people aged between 13-15 who have got strong opinions and would enjoy participating in a project such as this. We are interested in exploring many different aspects of youth culture, specifically relationships with their peers and their parents.We want to try and start an open, frank and national debate about young people, their attitudes to sex, virginity, and what it is really like to be a teenager today. Are young people growing up too fast? And where are they really learning about sex and relationships? I have been contacting various organisations, youth groups, schools, drama groups who have all been very supportive in helping us contact young people who may be interested in contributing towards what we hope could be a very special, sensitive and insightful documentary. Love Productions is a highly acclaimed independent production company with a reputation for making high quality documentaries like 'Filthy Rich and Homeless' for the BBC and Tony Robinson's 'Me and My Mum' for Channel 4. We have an award winning track record in producing programming about sensitive social issues and take our responsibility towards young people very seriously. We are very aware of the issues surrounding this area of film-making and we seek parental involvement and consent at the earliest possible stage. Another educational series made by Love for BBC Three called 'The Baby Borrowers' was a revealing series which gave a group of teens the opportunity to live an adult life in fast forward. This ‘experiment’ was a great success and it was educationally so valuable that the series is now circulated to schools and is currently used as an educational tool for 14 year olds during PSHE lessons. I would love to hear from you. All emails to me at this site are welcomed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2008): This is a very difficult situation. If you turn in her uncle to the police, you will likely lose your friend, as she will probably hate you for reporting her uncle, since she thinks she's in love with him. If you don't do anything, this situation will continue. I think that sooner or later, someone else, like her mother, will find out. Best thing to do may be to talk to her and tell her what she's doing is wrong and against the law, and she should go out and find a boy her own age. She needs to understand that she is being taken advantage of. Perhaps you *should* tell her mother about this, so that she will force her daughter to stop this relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2008): Ok,Get your friends phone goto the messages go into the "sent" folder and look for some solid proof that they are having sex if you can get this or maybe a tape of them admitig it or doing it, take it straight to the parents of the child then take it to the police.This guy will be locked up for a long time. :(~Ben
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2008): Listen, I know you don't know me, but take my advice; okay? I know exactly what you're going through. She may be a great person and friend, if you tell her your problems with this and tell her how wrong this is, and she realizes how badly it's bothering you and making you feel so uncomfortable, she is really a good friend.But if she stays with this old horny guy and takes no action towards your feelings, then she was never a really good friend; true friends will realize their mistakes. Fortunately she has some one like you to tell her what's right, and to show her this is wrong and a huge mistake. but try to say it in a not so harsh way, okay?
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (21 September 2008):
 Report this pervert to the police, he is nothing but a paodophile and should be locked up.
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reader, SugarCookie  +, writes (21 September 2008):
You need to tell her mother and try to have some proof. Write her a note that talks about what is going on and get her to responde that way she cant deny that it is happening to protect him. He is more than likely using her just for sex and making her feel loved so he can get it. No man in his right mind would love his own blood in a sexual way. Get her help who knows if he is doing it to anyone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2008): Man is she going to regret this later in life.
I'm with the others. It's time to let the cat out of the bag... even if it means sacrificing your friendship. A good friend would make that sacrifice rather then let a friend endure this kind of crap.
You'll need solid evidence first though. Otherwise all they have to do is deny it and no one will have anything to say they were ever doing anything.
So you need to catch at least one of them on tape admitting to it. Or hell, sneak around and film them in the act of sex. Once thats there he'll go to prison for a very long time and they don't like child-molesters, those criminals.
Flynn 24
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reader, Me51588 +, writes (21 September 2008):
 Tell your friends mother. He is 38 years old first of all plus he is family and that is VERY WRONG. He is an older man that knows better and needs to either go to jail or get help. You want to help your friend that is the best way to do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2008): If not her dad...say something to her mom! Thats so wrong.....its her uncle!....family! I know some ppl do it but hes 38 and shes 15... Honestly talk to her mom about this. Sure you cant do much...so they "love" each other....but...-no it needs to stop....
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