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writes:Ok, the short version of the problem i'm having is this: I moved to a new country a year ago, leaving behind my family to marry a guy I love. Everything is great with the marriage but things aren't so great with my family back home! They are very supportive of my marriage, that isn't a problem at all, but, since i've moved the amount of conversation has gone from daily to absolutely zero on their part and I know i'm living in a different country but that's what phones and emails are for, right!? I'm feeling out of the loop. I've mentioned it a few times but still no one seems to give a you know what to actually pick up the phone, i'm the one doing all the calling so now i don't feel like they even give much of a care about how i'm doing at all. To top it off, I just found out from someone else via an internet site that my mum is going bankrupt and closing her business TODAY!! She's moving out and all of my stuff is in her place!!! She hasn't told me anything other than she won't be online for a while. The fact that she has hundreds of dollars worth of my stuff in her place, when she has the bailiffs coming over to take everything, worries me, yes, but to be honest, they can take everything of mine if it helps her out, i really don't care. The problem is that she didn't tell me. Nothing. Not a single word, yet today I find out that everyone else knows!!!??????I want her to be ok, but I can't even help her if I don't know what is happening and out of respect she should have told me so I had the op to get my stuff out to storage!! Am I being ridiculous here or should I be angry?!?!Im worried for her, but peeved. I don't know if it's even worth it. How would you feel!? Some outside perspective is needed, i feel. Thanks in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI did ask my sister, she's going to see what she can get, but she has her hands full with other things at the moment - funny how the one person who has their hands full is the one person willing to help.
I guess i'll know this time tomorrow if she managed to get the things I wanted to keep - the bailiffs have zero use for my things but they'd still take them just to "do their job".
Urgh.
Thanks for the level head :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI should just clarify that this has indeed been coming for a long while now. I knew she was in a spot and we talked about her selling her business a few months back and she'd told me that she'd been in the process of doing this. We are usually very open with one another, we have a great relationship, she just didn't tell me about this until the day everything is being taken, which means i'm going to lose all of my childrens baby photos etc that are in her house as she moves everything out and as the bailiffs take everything else. I'm just frustrated over the lack of communication here.
I agree with you that she probably felt ashamed etc, but my sisters knew and half a dozen other people knew about this too, and they didn't tell me because they assumed i'd already know!?
Out of the loop. :/
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