A
male
age
41-50,
*oogie4
writes:I broke up with my ex about two months ago. I know she has moved on, and every once in a while I'll get a text from her saying hello.I'm sure I WON'T get back with her but my question is...what is the best way to get over her, and thoughts of her being with other guys? I've gotten self help books, e-books, you name it...yet I am still driven to know what she's doing. Can someone give me some advice on how to keep her out of my mind...on what she's doing and who she's doing it with?Thanks
View related questions:
broke up, my ex, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, boogie4 +, writes (12 April 2011):
boogie4 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for all your kind words. duly noted, and still working at it...
A
female
reader, ghoku +, writes (12 March 2011):
we are on almost the same ship here except im gay (girl)and i dont close my doors in getting back to my ex if ever. well i keep myself busy most of the time asking my friends to watch movies, do outdoor activities, even a simple hanging out with friends will do to get your mind away from her.try no contact rule. i think this is the best thing to do. dont contact her. erase her email add, cell phone numbers block her for a while on any live chat, facebook, myspace and all your social networking site until you are totally over her. you can even delete her (if you dont have any plans of getting back with her) so you wont be tempted to check on her every now and then. you have to discipline yourself which simply means if you established no contact you should be firm on it. best of luck!
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2011): First, next time she text don't answer her, delete her number so you are not tempted to contact her.
As long as you are reading books and trying to figure out how not to think about her, then you will be thinking of her. Stop and do something else. then she will be history.
...............................
A
female
reader, dearkelja +, writes (12 March 2011):
 I think it's unfair for her to continue to check in on you if she has moved on. You might begin to heal if you told her to let you be. There may come a time down the road when you have moved on where you might be able to deal with a friendly text from time to time but now when everything is so raw, it's driving you to "think" about her.
Time will heal the rest. Keep yourself busy and surround yourself with friends and activities that you enjoy. You'll begin thinking about her less and less. It's time to think about what you're doing and who you're going to be with. Now isn't that exciting?
All the best.
...............................
|
