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writes:hithis is my story i was with my ex for 9 months , when i first met him he told me he had split up with his ex 6 months previous they had been married for 20 years and had 2 children aged 17 and 19 but they dont want to know him or speak to him , he told me his wife and kids were horrible to him and he had no contact.the first date we had he told me he loved me and everytime i saw him he would cry and said i was his soulmate , over the next few weeks i lost my friends and he became controlling at night he wouldnt sleep and kept waking me up asking if i loved him too.he would take me to work and bak he was a real charmer too.three months into the relashionship he assaulted me and snapped my phone in half then threatened to kill himself , he then went onto assault me 2more times in the next couple of months , accusing me of having an affair , i had a cat and he wouldnt let it in the house saying he hated animals.after the last assault my 20 yr old daughter called the police they took me to a safe place and he was charged with 3 assaults and criminal damage , he pleaded not guilty it went to trial i had to give evidence and he was convicted of aall offences he is 49 and iam 40 i have moved to another area and left my rented home to go to safe place , i am now waiting to be rehomed .i have had no contact with him since the day i lefti feel so worthless how can i move on was it just me or did he treat his ex like this aswell he told me is edest said get out not scared of you and he didnt like his ex going out and that she was having an affair apperently like mecaN ANYONE HELP X
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reader, QZ  +, writes (4 July 2010):
 I can assure you he was the same way with his ex, and that's probably why his children and her have nothing to do with him. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that, but it's good that you got away now instead of being too tangled up in the web he spun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010): Do you think this 49 year old man suddenly starting behaving like this? No of course not, you can be sure he was like it with his ex too. You are doing the right thing having no contact with him and moving, once you get your new home you will feel better, and start to move forward. You are not worthless, you are a strong woman, you stood up in court and gave evidence against him, you should be proud of yourself.
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