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writes: my bf of 3 yrs (on and off) and i just moved in together and he is a weird one. we do not sleep in the same room let alone the same bed. he hates my dog. we do not communicate and sex has become boring and almost non existent. he ignores me for long periods of time and when i try to talk to him about it he says he will not argue (wont put up with it). i simply want to solve our issues. he has no interest in that it seems. my strategy (I hate games) is to ignore him and move on. i figure if im not wanted im not forcing it. is my thinking correct? he has high anxiety as well and has been a loner most of his life. any advice?
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reader, eddie85  +, writes (12 January 2016):
 And it took you three years to figure out the laundry list of negatives? I hate to say it, but you don't sound like a match at all. What benefits did you see on further complicating your life with someone you have so little bonds with?I realize three years is a while and it can be hard. We all get comfortable and sometimes we feel this is the best we can do. From the sounds of your really sold yourself short. I think this is illustrative of a larger problem in your life and it likely revolves around self-esteem. Read your post again and ask yourself if the writer was your best friend, what would you tell them? What does this tell us about you?I think it is time for you to take some time for some self-reflection. What do you want out of a partner? What do you want out of life? Where do you see yourself in the future. And after every answer ask yourself if staying with your boyfriend is going to get you closer to what you really want.We only have one life. There are no do-overs and every day you live with someone who isn't compatible is another day that you are missing out on your life. This may be a wake up call for you to really start to seek out what will make you happy. Hopefully you will identify the steps to get you there.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 January 2016):
 I agree, I think you should move out and move on with your life. This is not a healthy relationship. Its almost like you are living with a stranger.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (11 January 2016):
 You may want to move out and make it permanently "off".
You're realizing that moving in does not solve problems in a relationship. Relationships that are really strong and healthy tend to stay that way, and relationships on the rocks tend to get a whole lot "rockier" when people move in together.
You're not sleeping together, he's stonewalling you, he hates your dog, you don't talk to each other, so what are you getting out of this?!
I say move out before you get dependent on this joker.
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