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anonymous
writes:i dont know if i was molested or if im just over reacting.. my moms boyfriend is generally too close to me. he continously touches my bum and brushes past my breasts-but i know he does it on purpose. he will like rub all along my thigh with on hand and with the other hold my face while he kisses me all around my face and along my neck in a not normal way. i always tell him no, and stop it, yet he continues. after a while i manage to push him off me or away from me. he has also more than once asked me for sexual favours, and when i say no, continues to beg.. i do not like this at all and always say no!. i feel violated by this man, but dont know if im just over reacting. was i molested or am i just making a big deal out of nothing?
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (19 May 2010):
 I agree with CindyCares. Please contact the local rape crisis center for help if you can't talk to any of the people she listed. We're simply not equipped to deal with your situation here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2010): Knowing that u were sexually molested, the word molested shows that it's not normal so stop talking on here and go out and tell your mum or a siblling of yours before he starts trying to sleep with you
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (19 May 2010):
 No darling. You are fooling yourself. This does not feel "normal " to you- otherwise you would not be writing to Dear Cupid about it. If you were sure this is normal, you'd just shrug and think " Oh well, that's life " and you would not be asking our input.
If you do, it's because in your heart you know this is wrong, dangerous and damaging to you.
Again,tell your mum. Tell the Social Services. Tell the police,if you have to- but this has to stop NOW
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, this has been going on for 4 years.. and i was sexually molested as a child from 6-8. so for me it does seem pretty normal...
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (19 May 2010):
He is your mum's boyfriend, you are a minor, and he is asking you repeatedly for sexual favours. What's normal about that ??? In which culture, in which country,in which family is that considered normal ????
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni still cant help feeling that im over reacting to this situation. there are so many people who have had so much worse. maybe this is just normal and im just over reacting..?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): Tel lyour mum!!!!!!!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (16 May 2010):
 I don't know if it counts as molestation in legal terms. But it certainly is underdesired sexual attention even if he has not touched your private areas. Yet. And that is (at least in the west) illegal. Especially since you are a child and the relationship.Whatever the technical/legal term is, you are NOT over-reacting. I would distance myself as far away from this man as possible. If your mother is unwilling to immediately and totally get rid of this guy, then you have little option but to remove yourself from his presence. Can you stay with family or friends? Talk to your mother first, make it clear what has been going on, but don't take no for an answer. Some women are so depended on cock they will sacrifice anything for it, even their own children. This might be hard to accept, but all those accounts of child abuse where the mother claims to have known nothing? Really?So if your mother can't protect you, you got to protect yourself. The touching might be accidental, but you don't by accident ask the daughter of your gf for sexual favors.Try to find support from an adult you trust and make sure he is as far removed from you as possible. If that means moving out to a safe place, so be it. His asking now, you don't want to be around when he stops asking.
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reader, KateMcL  +, writes (16 May 2010):
 Hun! you are not over-reacting at all!..it seems like you are under reacting! please please..I cant stress this enough tell your mom,grandparents a friend or someone about this IMMEDIATLEY!..he cant get away with this!
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