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writes:Okay, I have known this guy for four years now and I would say that we're quite good friends. As time has progressed so has my feelings towards him. I am not sure if he feels the same way. I haven't had intercourse yet because I am only 15 despite doing other sexual acts with him and he even pesters me for sex. I don't want to go any further with him because I don't know if he feels the same way about me. Also when we have gotten together to do these things then afterwards he ignores me for a couple of days-week. Whenever I ask him where the relationship (if you can even call it that) is going he never gives me a straight answer. What am I to do? Reply to this Question
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (14 April 2009):
 hun he don't want you as a girlfriend he is just using you as and when he wants too
he knows he can and he'll keep coming back and forth to you because he knows you'll do it.
but you need to show him you won't stand for it!
you are better than that!
and good on you for not giving yourself up for sex with him!
very good of you!
he's ignoring you because he knows he's got what he wants and that's it no more now.
until he wants something else again.
he'll keep you by just until he finds a girl he wants to be in a relationship with and kick you to the kerb but beat him to it kick him to the kerb before he does it to you.
show him you won't stand for it because you kbnow you deserve better!
hope this helps
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reader, strider09  +, writes (14 April 2009):
 he wants to have sex with you but doesnt want commitment
this dude seems to be a player
just get out of his web soon before its too late
like the saying goes better late than never
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009): He sounds like someone who does not have the maturity to be in a sexual relationship (which is what you have, despite the fact that you haven't had intercourse). The fact that you're asking this question indicates that you recognize a problem, that at the least your needs are not being met -- not for affection, commitment or respect.
Good for you for recognizing the problem. Now take the next step and back away from the relationship. Do not give in to his pestering for intercourse. And really you shouldn't be doing anything else with him until the communication improves and you have no doubts about how he feels about you.
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