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writes:Okay so lately i have been having mixed emotions about my relationship, i love my boyfriend we have been together 2 years now he is my first boyfriend so i know nothing other than him. Although i had a dream last night that i slept with this guy that i used to ALWAYS talk to prior to my relationship and i havent spoke to him in ages until about a month ago when he messaged me asking why we dont speak anymore and i just explained 'cos of my boyfriend and stuff but then he reminded me that all we ever were was friends there was nothing more so then we chatted about that and then i realised how much i missed talking to him.. i dont know what to do my head and heart are saying to different things. i love my boyfriend but i cant help think what if it had of been him instead but i dont know whether to stay friends with this guy because i want the friendship or abandon him and the idea and try focus on my relationship .. help im so confused :( Reply to this Question
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reader, BellyDancerAme  +, writes (19 September 2011):
 I think the main problem here is that when going out with you boyfriend you may have cut off one of your best friends. i had exactly the same problem at around the same time in my relationship, as prior to going out with my boyfriend i had chatted regularly with one of his friends and at one point i did question whether i should be with him.I also feel that after 2 years the relationship can seem quite serious and doubts often happen and you wonder "what if" but it passes i have been going out with my boyfriends now for 3 1/2 years and i went through exactly what you did but all i did was treat it as a crush. i told myself that deep down all i was interested in was my boyfriend and that came out true. The best thing for you to do is just see it as a crush or a passing fancy. it will soon go and you will realise how much happier you are with your current boy friend.
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