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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 14 months. On Monday, I barely found out that he was leaving for school. It's only upstate but I was really upset because he didn't tell me and he knew for a long time that he has decided to go away to school. He broke down and told me he was really scared of what was going to happen and what I might have done. We spent our last day together before he left and we both let everything out. Mostly me because I was more sad than angry that I was the last to know. I was crying all day and he was crying as well because we were both upset, and this hasn't been the first time that we have had a really big issue. We both love each other very much, and considering all that we have been through, our obstacles have only made us stronger. We planned to stay together and make it work considering he's only going to be gone for four semesters. Considering on financial standings, he's planning to come down once a month and I am planning to spend a weekend up there every now and then. I'm just really scared that something might happen. I've been through a lot of heartache and I seem to always be the one who goes through hardships like this. I just want to know if there is anything else we can do to make sure that this works. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Phoebe,
I appreciate your answer to my question. It has only been two days and so far it's been ok. I am still pretty upset but no doubt I am and always will be 100 percent supportive to whatever he chooses to do with his life. Things were not going so well last year with family and school and there was a chance of him joining the Navy. I would have been there for him no matter what. I really hope and know that this will work out but of course i am just a little scared.
Thank you again.
p.s. IF ANYONE ELSE HAS SOME GOOD ADVICE PLEASE LET ME KNOW =]
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (19 August 2010):
 It's perfectly understandable he didn't want to tell you.. he probably didn't want to tell you because he knew it would hurt you, and that's clearly something he didn't want to do.
All you can do is trust him. I know it's hard to do that when you've been hurt a lot of times before. Call, text, e-mail. There a loads of ways to keep in touch. Maybe call eachother every morning to say good morning and talk about what you're getting up to that day, and send him a text before you go to sleep. They say absence makes the heart grow fonder, hopefully this will be another obstacle that you btoh can overcome, leaving you sronger on the other side. You have to admire your boyfriend though, for putting his education first, it's a smart thing to do.
Good luck!
xxx
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