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writes:Hello,Yesterday my boyfriend of 5 years(we've been dating since highschool)told me he needs a break. He also said it via text message which upset me. Just 2 days prior he was all lovey dovey even bringing flowers to my house. The very day before he mentioned to me we need a break, he told me in the morning I was being distant. I haven't been distant at all. Sometimes I noticed he just says stuff to start something. Anyways that same day in the evening he said I just want to talk to you. I want to hug you. So me being curious I said "whats wrong?, What is it about?" he said its not you, its not me, its not us BUT DONT WORRY. I love you go to sleep. That statement right there confused me so much considering the next day he told me he needed a break. We had such a great trip memorial day weekend to ourselves. Our relationship has never been better in my opinion. I though we were finally "maturing" and becoming such a more beautiful couple done with little games, however I thought wrong. And for him to say to me how he needs a break threw me off guard A LOT. Since that text message I said OKAY(meanwhile im hurting) .I also said I understand if he has stress and I am always here for him.He responded saying what we have is great he just needs to chill and he wants to be alone.I then said out of my emotional anger how he owes it to me to tell me to my face why all the sudden and he hasnt responded.I love him so much and i know he loves me to but i have no idea the reasoning. We were fine just 2 days prior. All i want to do is talk to him in person but I dont want to seem desperate. Please Help!!!Anyways
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (9 June 2012):
 Hi CancerGirl91,
That's a real 180 from bringing you flowers. Wow.
I believe after 5 years...you deserve an explanation. That being said though you need to ready yourself for the explanation. If you say that things are wonderful in your relationship and you have no idea where this came out from...something less than wonderful triggered it.
Perhaps, he is feeling guilty about something and does not know how to tell you? Something happened recently that triggered it off and the only way he knows how to deal with it is by calling a break. Breaks just don't up and happen, there is usually a reason behind it...arguing, broken promises or infidelity. You need to be ready for the reason behind this.
Go over and confront him....not aggressively ....but let him know you deserve more than this. And you need the reason behind this....you just got flowers!! Tell him it's okay if it is something bad ...you'll deal with it together and talk about it..but don't just shut you out like that after 5 years.
If you love this guy...I say go over. He can't run from you if you're in front of him. If he does...then you don't even need the reason anymore. Obviously you're not worth enough for him to tell you the truth....and that's the time you make a run in the other direction.
HOpe it goes well.
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