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writes:I am 20 yr old. I used to have fantasies for my sister in law who was elder. I started touching her whenever i got chance. But one day she asked me why i was touching her special parts. I understood that i was caught. I became pale. Then she was cool and told she understands my feelings and she was observing me for somedays. When she asked me why i do this then i told that i am very curious to feel and understand a female body. Than i expected she was very free to talk. She told if i am very curious i can feel her body and in a quick i got courage and searched her entire body till i saw her nude. She was cool. Then another day she talked with me and told that my urges must be over now. She then pleaded me not repeat this anymore and be a good guy. I thought she was interested in some affair. But it looks like she considered me a small boy and handled that way. I feel humiliated. More than that i am afraid whether she told to my elder brother. Anybody here please help. I know that what i did was not decent. What will i do now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): --------i wrote this question-----------
my brother spoke to me. he told me that it is ok. she told things to my brother.
i dont know whether I am alive or dead.
he was very cool. when i got some privacy, i asked her why she told to brother.
she told he knew all from beginning. it was his suggestion to educate me.
i am embaressed. at the same time i wish to respect them both.
you dont know the culture in our country. it is rigid.
still he allowed to consider me as his own child.
thanks thanks thanks... for all the suggestions
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2009): be sure she didnt tell your brother..
and by letting you touching her entire body with this ease
usualy means that she likes you in a way or another
just be cool, act normally and dont touch her again
if she has any interrest in you ,
she well start flirting back some day and you well nottice that by then..
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (2 November 2009):
 Keep you hands to yourself, that's what you do now. Sheesh Buddy, grow up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2009): Your sis in law has given you a gift. she wont tell anyone as it would make her look bad.
But you need to leave it at that and maybe meet someone special for you
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reader, lilyth +, writes (2 November 2009):
 I don't mean to be rude, but are you sure that you are 20? from reading your question and the fact that you are interested in a females nakedness that you are really a youger teenager. It is ok that you are but that does make a difference with the situation.
it sounds as if you had some encounter with your older brother's wife? if this is true, then it can be considered infidelity on her part.
You are right that what you did was indecent and you are right in your obvious feelings of guilt. but take heart. You are younge and inexperienced, you are driven by hormones that you are still learning to understand and control. It makes sense that you were attracted to the woman and acted on those feelings. By now I am sure that you are more consciencly aware of the "wronge and right" facets of this situation. One thing to remember, is that she was in the wronge too. I would not fear that she will tell your brother because rationally and quite understandbly so her husband ( your brother) would be very angry with her. when you say that she pleaded for you not to repeat it, that was your clue that she knew she was wronge. Please don't get me wronge, I think that the person who is really in the wrong here is her. she should not have mislead you in such a away with her being older as well as married. she was getting a kick out of the fact that you were attracted ,younge, inexperienced and easily manipulated due to you being so innocent to sex. I do believe that you are half-wrong in this situation. because you are of an age hat you should have a good moral foundation between what is good and what is bad. you knew that it was wronge and you went ahead and tangled with the taboo. You are right in thinking that she handled you as a little boy and that makes her wong as well. because from the sound of it she would have done the same thing for a 12 year old boy and that is not only morally wrong but also has strong legal consequences.
The best thing for you to do is just to think about the experience.
how it made you feel and why, which I am sure that you are already doing.
you should try to move on, do not do it again or make any advaces to her again, if she advaces you, do not heed them and leave the room.
learn from your eperience and find a nice girl about your own age that isn't attachted or married and is about the same level of experience as you.
even the playing feild as they say. date her, start a romance and eplore new sexual experiences with her in a safe and trusting manner where ther is no humiliation or shame or guilt and have fun.
don't worry so much about what has happened, it is in the past and you cannot change that. we all make mistakes, that is how we learn. cheer up chuck! the sun is shinning and it is a new day!
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