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writes:I was here in october questioning about my relationship with my boyfriend, basically if i still loved him. and I do not, in all honesty probaly hadnt in a while, had just gotten comfortable and put of the inevitable. I was back in November after the break up when he kinda went a little nuts over the break up, since then things have calmed quite a bit, with the help of a lawyer and legal issues. Now, its december and I'm back, and feeling like maybe i might be the crazy one for thinking and feeling the way I am. Here's the story.I met someone, not planned at all. The minute that we saw each other and started talking it was as if something more was happening. He was kind, and polite and very attractive, we talked and found we have a lot in common, but also that we are both just getting out of relationships. He asked if that we could be friends, just someone to talk to and get to know. I didnt see any harm in that as I really enjoyed his company. so we agreed to talk every now and then. Every time we talk the conversations get longer and when we are around each other it feels like their is a magnet pulling us closer together. He recently kissed me, he said he was sorry and that he didnt mean to cross a line, but in all honesty I LIKED it and that scared me. I know i havent given myself enough time to deal with my break up yet, and he probably hasnt either. We talked about it and agreed to keep things as friends. But when we are together it feels like their is so much desire and passion between us to become so much more. I've never felt so drawn to someone. He feels the same way. Will it be possible for us to remain friends, while we both feel this. Am I crazy, does this happen between people? Or, is it where I have just gotten out of a relationship making me just think this way. He is a great guy and if friends is all we can be, while i say thats fine, im thinking in the back of my head that i want more. more confused than ever. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 December 2014):
 If you emotionally had checked out of your past relationship a while before you actually ended it you may very well be ready to move on and consider dating again... just go slow.
why relegate him to friends if you and he want more?
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