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writes:This may be a little long, so please stick with me.I recently joined a dating site. I've never done online dating, but I'm really shy with guys in person, so my sister suggested I try it. Among all the creeps, I actually met a semi decent guy. We talked for about a week before we went out on a date. We've since been on five dates and it's been about a month since the first one. He seems really sweet and old fashioned, which is unusual to find, but really nice. He asked my permission to kiss me goodnight after the second date and he hasn't even pressured me to have sex with him. The problem is, while he's really sweet when we're together and when we talk, neither of those things happen that often. He never calls, only texts, which is pretty normal these days, but it makes it almost impossible to have an actual conversation. He texts me almost daily, but it usually takes him a long time to get back to any texts, he always responds eventually though. However, we're on fall break this week and since he went home three days ago, I haven't heard from him at all. I texted him once, and he read it, but he never responded, which is rare for him. He seems interested by what he says when we do talk, in fact he told me he enjoyed my company and could see this going somewhere, but I guess I'm just feeling uncertain because he doesn't necessarily show that he's interested. He did recently delete his dating site account, but I'm not sure that that's directly related to us dating. I was burned pretty bad in my last relationship, which I know I shouldn't let affect this one, but it does, and sometimes I over think things now because of it. I guess my question is does it sound like I'm thinking too hard about all of this and he might actually want this to go somewhere, or does it seem like he's only half interested and I should move on before I become too invested?Any help would be greatly appreciated because this is driving me insane thinking about. Thank you in advance!
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reader, malvern  +, writes (8 October 2013):
 Give this guy a bit more time. You hardly know him. Some people are a bit slow to warm up. I always think that the best way to get to know somebody is to visit their home, it can tell you a thousand things about their personality. See if you can get yourself invited to his home. Overall I would say to hang onto this guy for while until you know for certain whether you want to keep him or leave him.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (7 October 2013):
 I didn't start online dating until I was 28. I would say that for college students their intentions can't be that serious because a lot of them don't even know where they would live for the next few years. My experience with dating is that it goes very quickly. You hear when people say take it slow, be careful, don't have sex until few months into dating, almost like a drone but in real life most people lose patience with the non communication.
There is nothing happening so it's not worth getting insane about. With a person who does not call everyday and meet up at least twice a week, it doesn't give me anything to invest in and get attached. It's like out of sight out of mind for me.
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