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writes:I'm 25 and gay, and I met a guy online, who I really connected with. The problems are, he's 18, and lives halfway across the country. We've spoken of meeting, and I think it's mutual that we both want to. I'm still apprehensive, due to his age, but he has an amazing attraction to older people, such as myself. He is fed up with his peers' immaturity. Again, I don't think I've connected like this with anyone, and I think I'm falling for him and he for me. But I can't be sure. But right this minute, he's talking to another gay man who he met online... for several hours. They've met in person, and he says he has no feelings for him, but I can't be sure. Needless to say, I'm going mad, as I'm a dependent wretch... I don't know what to do anymore. Please help, anyone!! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008): Meet the guy and then see what you think.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (15 April 2008):
 You're putting a lot of effort and faith into a guy you haven't met in person yet! You should stop worrying about him so much, it's not good to hand your heart over to a guy you don't really know.
Long distance relationships are challenging even when the two people involved have met and have begun an intimate relationship, this one sounds like it's still evolving. Don't put all your hopes into this, dear, not until you really know more.
I agree with Emily that you need to get yourself out into the real world and meet people in person!
So take it easy, don't push something that isn't there yet. Go ahead and make plans to meet up with him, but 'cover your heart, Indy, cover your heart!'
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (15 April 2008):
Well the odds are against you here.
But the odds are against you winning the lottery and people still do.
Long distance is really really hard. Are you ready for that kind of commitment? Is he? If you are already having doubts and getting jealous without even meeting him first I would say not.
Go and meet him and have a great time, but don't go with the idea that you are going to fall for him and have a long distance thing and then get married and move to the suburbs.
Then when you get home, get offline and go out meeting real people in your area.
Good Luck!! xx
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