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*londie_1991
writes:I was out in town the other night and met this really nice guy in a club. We seemed to get on pretty well and exchanged numbers. Since that night we have been texting neach other everyday and he has asked me to meet up with him when I get back home ( as I moved away to university and met him while I was home over the holidays. Even though I was unsure if I could meet him when I g home in a few weeks he seemed keen and even suggested summer. However I am wondering if I should go for it as there are just a few things I am worried about;1) he is 4 years older than me (me being 18, him 22)2) whether he is genuine as it was in a club we met3) how to tell my parents I was meetin up with someone older who just met one random nightI dont no if these worries are just because I have been single for so long and have never been in a proper relationship or something else.Any advice would be amazing!! Thanks x
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reader, blondie_1991 +, writes (21 April 2010):
blondie_1991 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx for all the advice guys, think you are all right, I will wait and see what happens over the next few weeks and then just go for it when I go back :)
Thanks again :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2010): 1) There is nothing wrong with 4 years age difference, my husband is 4 years older, and we've been married 21 years.
2) Ok, you meet him in a club, so what you were in the same club, does that mean your not genuine?
3) I wouldn't worry about your parents, when you're ready just tell him,after all that 's how a lot of people meet on a random night.
Like you say you are probably a bit nervous, this guy has been texting you and saying he wants to see you, jump in and and have fun
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (20 April 2010):
 Hi, my sister met her husband in a bar and they've been married for close to 10 years and have 2 children. It can happen. You just have to be smart about it and make sure you aren't blinded by a crush.
I think you shouldn't lie to your parents, just be honest that you met him and thought he was the real deal. Of course, he hasn't yet proved that to you, so be cautious!
I don't think the age gap is too much to worry about, it depends on your relative levels of maturity.
Good luck.
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reader, raiders +, writes (20 April 2010):
 Go for it!!!! You met him in a night club this means nothing since people in night clubs have feelings too. He is four years older this is not a big gap since you are over age. You will never know how genuine a person is unless you give them a try. Go for it!!!!
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reader, rambini +, writes (20 April 2010):
 in answer to your worries
1) 4 years is no big deal at all, my parents have a four year age gap
2) you will never find out if he is genuine unless you give him the chance and 10% of married couples met in a club
3) you cant help where you meet someone, and if you really think its going to bother them, just dont mention where you met.
it is normal to be aprehensive, especially when you say you have been single for a while. but honestly these things are nothing to worry about, if you like this guy i think you should give it a shot, have some fun and see where it leads!
best of luck x
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