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writes: i have just ended a 4 weeks relationship with a man who drunk a lot.tried to help him but didnt do any good. near end of relationship i met a lovely man on a chat site. have exchanged numbers and chatted alot. he wants to come up and see me. i am attracted to him. want to know whether this is a good idea to meet him. tried to forget about him but couldn't get him out of my mind.what should i do
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2011): Yes it is because you can meet the right guy and fall in love with him
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2006): well first make sure this is not going to be a rebound relationship first or it wont work. and if u truly are interested in meeting this guy then do it. my bestfriend married a man she met on the net over a year ago and they are living happily ever after and already have a baby girl. i personally think that meeting someone online can really work out well and remember why u started to search the net for love,dating,making friends, he may be out to do the same and he may be sincere. JUST GO FOR IT
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2006): If you feel ready to meet him then why not go for it? Make sure you take precautions, such as meeting in a public place and not giving him too much personal information about yourself. Make sure you have a plan in place, in case he is a "weirdo" so you can leave, safely. Make sure there are people who care about you who know what you are doing. Having said this, you said you've spoken to him loads (on the telephone) so I am sure you are capable of judging if this man is on the level.
If you feel you arn't ready to meet just yet, then just say this to him. A lovely man would respect this, and would continue to get to know you online until you are ready to meet.
Trying to forget something never works does it? Don't think of a pink elephant, don't think of a pink elephant, WHAT EVER YOU DO, don't think of a pink elephant! Are you thinking of a pink elephant? Explore your feelings, do not deny then. Perhaps you tried to forget about him because he seems so lovely and you are scared that he will let you down and you will get hurt again?
Take things slowly and communicate your thoughts with this man. If it's meant to be, he'll support you and put your mind at rest.
Good luck!
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