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writes:I'm very close to moving to the next stage of a relationships and getting physical with a man who I have been seeing. I am quite worried though about my breasts which are quite saggy after having fed four children. So honestly men, how much do you notice and/or care about sagginess in a woman's breasts. I feel quite self conscious when I know he has commented during movies about wow at some perky boobs when they have come up during a movie ...So I need the truth. How much do men notice this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2014): Hi, I am around your age. I was advised that you can still shape your body as its fat. You need to wear the right bra size and ensure its the broad strap for support. Not only does it give better support but helps with confidence. Go to a bra shop and ask for assistance, don't be embarrassed because its their job and they will guide you. I also feel woman don't use the right bra which is a major part of the challenge.
I know its not what you asked for but trust me invest in the right bra as you will be confident and happy.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (16 June 2014):
Honestly, my opinion doesn't matter because I'm not dating you. Don't worry about it. If he likes you for who you are, that's great. If he doesn't then his loss. You don't want to have to feel like you have to be someone you're not to please a man.
If you REALLY want my opinion, I actually like saggy boobs to an extent. "Pancakes" as people often refer to completely flat breasts are not my favorite, but they aren't a deal breaker. I certainly wouldn't think less of a woman who has them.
My wife has had two kids, an ex gf had one and another had big, naturally saggy boobs and all were great because I got to play with them. That's the bottom line.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (16 June 2014):
“Nursing does not diminish the beauty of a woman's breasts; it enhances their charm by making them look lived in and happy.”
? Robert A. Heinlein
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2014): How much do you notice things like a beer belly, chest hair on a guy and how much do you care?
The truth is of course we notice, OP, they're boobs we love them and we love playing with them.
As for how much we care; not at all.
Of course there are exceptions, just like there are women who care a lot about penis size, circumcision, baldness or the other standard things that are deemed "unattractive" by bullshit societal standards but the majority of us know what happens a woman's body as she ages and after breast feeding, it's normal and they still remain awesome.
Don't worry about them, OP, he'll still love them and if he doesn't then that's on him, not your breasts.
As for him making comments be free to let him know you're a potential girlfriend not a guy friend and therefore it's inappropriate and mildly disrespectful to comment so blatantly on the breasts of other women.
Seriously, OP, don't worry about them. Things like boob sag, stretchmarks, scars, blemishes, wrinkles, extra weight don't phase us in the slightest, they do nothing to take away from the beauty of a woman, don't let bullshit advertising and the very warped standard of beauty being perfection convince you otherwise.
He has his own age related physical changes too, his balls are probably swinging between his knees at this stage and if he's actually able to maintain a trim physique and all his hair then he's one of the very lucky few.
It's called being normal, OP, women don't decline in beauty with age.
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (16 June 2014):
The size and shape of a woman’s breast can be a thing of attraction to us guys, yes true. But just like breast come in all size and shapes, so do men’s opinions and feelings towards them. For me it’s not the size and shape, but the sensitivity. If she can get turned on by me playing with, or sucking on the nipples, then…yes please.
There are women with big perky breast that have no sensation and others with saggy boobs with lots of sensation. Ultimately, it is not your breast that matters. Further South will make a difference… how good you are between the sheets, so to speak, same standards for guys. If a man sucks in bed, and he has the biggest Penis you ever had, you will not keep him for long.
One thing to keep in mind... If you have not gone to the next level as you say, and your boyfriend is already commenting on other women, I think you should hold off until you know his true intentions. Do not settle for a man just because he is willing to date you with four kids.
You have earned your saggy breast, so the man that gets to see them should have also earned that right.
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (16 June 2014):
 i am more concerned with a woman,s character, honesty, loyalty, and love for me.
i think a woman with breast that may be sagging is just fine. i have more trouble wit a woman that is worrying about having a perfect body, or even can not let her man enjoy her because she is not perfect.
movies give a false since of reality to real life. if a man is going to reject a woman because of not having perky boobs, you may need to ask him what he wants in life. and point him in that direction toward the door, if hes not happy with you.
perky boobs should have no effect on your relationships. you may need to slow down with this guy and make sure of his commitment toward you is real.
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reader, Mark1978  +, writes (16 June 2014):
 I would be less concerned with your boobs and more bothered by your boyfriends "WOW's" at women's breasts while watching movies. That's adolescent and hardly the kind of thing a man should be saying in front of his girlfriend!
Mark
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