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writes:Dear Cupid...I've been having this long distance relationship for about 3 years now planning to move in together next year. But, recently he's been very busy and we haven't seen each other over a month. For me it's been very tough, but I think he is OK about not seeing each other that often. I know that men are from mars and women from venus, but I don't feel he loves me or ever loved me. I don't feel like going to visit him anymore because everytime I try to make arrangement he says not to waste money on tickets, or why are you coming next week and the following too. I told him that I needed to make arrangement for a new place when I move in in february, then he says nothing. At the same time, I feel that I am the one making all the arrangement on getting a place for the two of us, on renting my place, getting a new job, etc; but he does not talk about it.. I mean february is right around the corner, don't you think? or Am I rushing?I just feel like the one making the most effort, and I am tired of being washed away by him... I love him and I want to spend the rest of my life with him, but don't think we are in the same page? I don't feel the love from him. How do I know if he really loves me? He is not affectionate, or thoughtful with me. He does not surprise me or send me sweet e-mails or txt. message the way I do all the time...He barely says I miss you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): Yeah something's not right. Especially where you mention how you told him about making arrangements for getting a new place and he said nothing. And how ever since you two have decided on moving in together he has become distant and unavailable. Those are really big red flags. He is not sure about this move. He might even be unsure about how he feels about you.
Honestly it sounds like he likes the long distance because he can have sex periodically without a real commitment. I mean right now he is really showing you his true colors. I think you should forget him and move on. He is really doing NOTHING for you. Who needs him??
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): He sounds pretty cold to me, has he always been this way? I think the next time you two are together you need to sit him down and have a proper chat with him. Find out, if you can, just what he actually wants, if it is the same as you then fine. If not, then ask yourself if you really want to move and be with him. Will you be leaving your family and friends behind? Do you really feel you are in love with him? Will it be a lot different when you move? Ask yourself a lot of questions and then ask if you still want to move. Dont cling onto a rock just because it is something that you have been doing for three years. Let go if you are not happy. Believe me, life is much too short to throw any of it away.
take care
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