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anonymous
writes:Dear cupid,I am sick of men I am sick of boys I am sick of bad relationships, broken hearted, being used, lied to, cheated, strung around, toyed with, abused, abandoned, and every Tom Dick and Harry that tries very hard to impregnate me. This has nothing to do with any one person except me and my twisted little thoughts that taunt me inside my head. I want my cheesy puffs and I want to eat them too, this is not impossible I just cant find them in the store. When ever I have dated a guy I cant seem to find the comfort in the relationship you know like when two people are cuddling, kissing, flirting while doing something hopelessly romantic. Or to have that sense of security where you feel like you can share your whole life with that one person and every thing in it with out having to fear because the other person puts in the same amount of work and effort. And someone that I can talk to about my hopes, dreams, insecurities. Well this doesn’t exist for me, but it’s not that I cant find this comforting feeling It’s just that when I do find it then the relationship is never satisfying or pleasurable “I’m not going into details about great sex”I have noticed that I do get this comforting feeling from woman like a motherly kind of feeling but I’m not physically attracted to women and I was raised with morals about dating another female. I can’t see a woman ever sparking an interest in my sexuality and it kind of grosses me out “seems sleazy“. I was always taught that same sex partners is frowned upon and that it would disgrace my family and that I would loose my pride. If I’m not physically attracted to women how would I go about dating one? I feel that I will be embarrassed to go out in public or that it will mentally scar my psychi, The whole concept of in taking this idea is new and unfamiliar to me, are there different rules that apply to a same sex relationship? How would I present this idea to my friends and Catholic family with out dishonoring them? Also I have a 1yr old kid is it possible to get married to the same sex and give the other female partner rights to my child? How canI do that and give my kid a normal life? I’m not saying I’m going to do this but is it possible? What does every one think of my thoughts? Has anyone else ever experienced what I’m going threw?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2010): just because you haven't met a man that ticks all the boxes doesn't mean he isn't out there somewhere. You talk about being a lesbian as though it is something to hide and be ashamed of. That's not fair to lesbians who are looking for that magical relationship you seek as you will be unable to give them that.
Plus you are being rather blinkered if you think that women have some higher level of loving than men. Women can be bitches too you know. They can also be all you want. Niceness isn't about the sex of a person it's about the person.
Maybe you need to slow down a bit and just enjoy your child, without being with someone for the sake of being with someone.
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (16 April 2010):
 LA Latina nailed it. It doesn't matter which sex you date. You'll always find that BAD qualities are present. It's about the PERSON you are dating.
Do you seem to keep dating the same kind - e.g. bad-boys, geeks, workaholics, druggies whatever?!?! If that's the case, then maybe you need to evaluate what is causing you to do that and then break the mold (so to speak).
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 You can have the best of best worlds... keep dating men, they are good for sex and have some other nice qualities... but get yourself a nice woman friend, someone who understands you and someone who is always there....
It's hard when women expect their men partner's to be everything... get some girlfriends and listen to their advice, they'll tell you which guys to dump and which guys to date, and they'll be there to dry your tears, make you laugh, help you with childcare. You don't have to give up men and sex, just look for intimacy through friendship until the right guy comes along.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (15 April 2010):
 Hell this world is nuts most of what your saying seems possible, but... sounds to me like your just hurt and venting though not actually into a lesbian relationship ,also i dont quite understand what you mean by
"but it’s not that I cant find this comforting feeling It’s just that when I do find it then the relationship is never satisfying or pleasurable “I’m not going into details about great sex”"
any ways seems like theres some other issues here but to answer your question a lesbian relation ship is possible but im not sure its worth it.
if you can sign up and if you do drop me a msg there's something i would like to ask you.
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reader, L.A LATINA +, writes (15 April 2010):
 Hello well i dated a female for about a 1 year and i could say i experimented . And i dont regret any thing i had fun and when you begin to like some one you dont care who see's you and and it wasnt about sex i promise you it was about the caring ,sensitive ,understanding of a female , mean are not born with the same emotions women do if that was the case i think there would be less divorce's ..anyway another point i wanted to bring up was the women i was with cheated on me... so it works booth ways and like my boyfreind now tells me it aint all about sex lets be freinds and we go from there i live with my boyfreind and we are freinds before lovers ...we good luck
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