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41-50,
*umberSix
writes:I don't have a huge social scene these days,I'm getting too old for clubs etc, really (I'm 35 but an told I look alot younger) and am not too keen on them if I'm being honest anyway.The only social thing I do regularly is that I go to the gym almost every day. There are loads of attractive girls who go there and I keep thinking, "why don't I go and strike up a conversation with them?" After all, it's a friendly place and all us guys chat to each other and get along great.Apart from the age-old problem of just basic shyness, the thing stopping me is just wondering if girls mind guys talking to them in the gym or are they too self conscious? Obviously, I'd choose my time carefully, I wouldn't just start chatting away when they are on a running machine or something or all exhausted and sweaty.Does this sound like a normal way to meet some girls and see if maybe get on or is it just a way to seem like a creep to girls at a time and place where they wish they were invisible?Thanks in advance.
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reader, Roboaxe  +, writes (13 October 2009):
 Like Gretzky said, "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take."
Just go for it! Take into consideration what Sweet thing said however, don't waste your time with some girl who clearly does not want to engage in a friendly conversation.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (13 October 2009):
 Try being yourself...look at it this way. You have something in common with the others at the gym: You are trying to better yourself physically...there is a start. But I suggest once again just be yourself...honesty is always the best policy and you seem like a pretty honest guy.
Best of luck
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (13 October 2009):
 Women never mind a guy who strikes up a conversation with them if they are possibly looking to meet someone too. Just watch carefully for signals that indicate she wants to be left alone. If she's interested, she'll seem friendly and will try to keep the conversation going. If she's not, she'll answer with short, to-the-point answers that don't leave any room for further discussion. Good luck.
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