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writes:Hello. My question is out of confusion about an outburst involving my ex.She is the dumper. I rejected her friendship offer due to deception and sugarcoating. Anyways, I get told by her new guy, to leave her alone. (That isn't the outburst.).So, now, we both attend the same college. But, NOT the same program, thank God. But, my ex asks me how I was doing. I jumped up, and had an anxiety attack. I had another one triggered by her new guy. This time, I go to Campus Security, and after explaining to them I felt threatened by my ex, they told me they'd keep watch.Now, my ex puts as her MSN Status Update: "Why is life so hard?" . I have no idea why she did that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2012): Really? You went to the security because her asking you how you are made you feel unsafe? Are you for real? Her motives were she was trying to bury the hatchet and be the bigger person by asking how you are. She made no threat to you at all.
The comment on MSN was written about something other than you, your not her world you know, thousands write stuff like that! She was probly having troubles with school or HER NEW MAN.
Here I am quoting what you have said...
"About the Security Guards idea you're suggesting, there's only one glitch. I've been told by them that it would be anonymous. I wonder if it still gives them permission to divulge the anonymous complaint"
This was in response to a sugestion, " perhaps something has now been said to her by security of whatever."
But I wrote: "why did you go to security? Did her asking how you are really feel like she was threatening you?If you are refuring to her status of "Why is life so hard" as her outburst why do you think it is about you?"
And your reply to it was "I think it's caused by me, as she posted that when I recently consulted with Security."
Now that is a complete diffetent thing there, first you are saying that security wouldnt say anything as it was going to be remained anonymous complaint.
Now your saying they did tell her and you are saying that is why she wrote it? Is that right?
Mate it is you that is causing the drama not them. She simply asked how you were. And her bf told you to stay away because you were harrassing her and she didn't like it. He never attacked you he just asked that you stay away. That was it, and you go and be a cry baby and tell security because OMG YOUR EX ASKED HOW YOU ARE shit really!! Your age bracket is 22 to 25 years old, how about you start actiong like an adult and suck it up and not be such a skirt. What the hell is there to be feeling unsafe about?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHer asking me how I was was quite the shocker, as she told me never to speak to her when I trashed her friendship offer. That's why I went to Security. To feel safe, as I felt very confused about her motives, when she asked how I was.
I think it's caused by me, as she posted that when I recently consulted with Security.
She lied, as she is full of deception. She's deceptive.
Besides, she and her new guy are the drama causers. I do nothing, and the new guy tells me to leave her alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2012): I think your making a big deal out of this all, why did you go to security? Did her asking how you are really feel like she was threatening you? Did her new man tell you to leave her alone in a threatning mannor, and if her did you should have reported him not her.
If you are refuring to her status of "Why is life so hard" as her outburst why do you think it is about you? Maybe it was about her new boyfriend, maybe it was about school. It is very concceded of you to think that comment that thousands of people write on there status, was about you.
Why would she do that? Oh my gosh, really?
I say you need to just forget her, you are causing drama that is not there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYoung and in Love, I swear, I didn't do anything to her, once I ceased being her friend. That is why her new guy is confusing me when telling me to leave her alone.
True. I don't want to get all upset about her. She lied to me, and, yeah. I terminated the friendship because of it…… yep. She's getting wiped from my Contact Lists.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI couldn't show an interest in her question, as I felt it was a cheap self assurance way of feeling that she never wronged me by deception. If the new guy is controlling, why would the ex stick with him? Sounds strange. But, plausible. I'm not challenhing what you're suggesting. I'm considering it a strong possibility. About the Security Guards idea you're suggesting, there's only one glitch. I've been told by them that it would be anonymous. I wonder if it still gives them permission to divulge the anonymous complaint
I had a feeling, that, if she would realize the impact of the mistake, it would be far too late, as her credibility went from a beautiful, shiny diamond, to a plain, old rock. I'll probably tell the next girlfriend I get, the importance of not sugarcoating. However, I'll tell her that I'll only tolerate deception, or withholdal of truth, if it's to cover up a good surprise. In those cases, credibility wouldn't get tarnished.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (11 November 2012):
You'll never know the reason, as you can't get it out of her, and she won't tell you. But I'll hazard a guess and say that she's probably having a bit of a crisis. You weren't interested in her when she came to see how you were, her new guy sounds controlling, and perhaps something has now been said to her by security of whatever.
My guess is, life is catching up with her and she realizes she has made mistakes. Best thing to do is just avoid her, as you have been doing.
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reader, Young and in Love  +, writes (11 November 2012):
 I think you may be reading into it too much, and you seem to still have mixed feelings about it all. It sounds like you still want to be with her, and that's why her new boyfriend is telling you to leave her alone. You didn't really mention what the outburst was, so it's hard to tell, but I'm guessing you had a part in it. Since you two aren't friends anymore, I don't see why you have her on your MSN. I think you should just remove her from all your social network circles and just try to move on. Focus on your schooling and try not to let the situation get you down.And by the way, that status could have been for a multitude of things. School being the most likely. I think you're just hoping it's about you. Like I said, focus on school, and unless you're willing to be JUST friends, I suggest you delete her from your phone, emails, MSN, Facebook, etc. You don't wanna risk being confused or anything again.
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