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36-40,
*latunia
writes:I ended a year long relationship last Valentines Day. After the initial break up we were able to maintain friendship, and presently are best friends who date a little. The catch is, we both hook up with other people now, and as much as he says hes over me, hes gets very angry when he knows I have hung out with someone else. I also get jealous, but its because I know I still love him. What I need to know is why he is mad, and how do i deal with it? Should I let him stay mad for a while,or try and mend it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2007): Ok let me see if I this!
You are best friends with your ex. wow!
You DATE a little.
You both hook up with other people.
He is over you but gets angry when you date other guys.
You still love him.
You get jealous when he hooks up with other females.
Ok yes its a little clearer now.
It sounds to me that there are still raw emotions flying around. It also sounds to me that there is confusion as to what kind of relationship you both have. I believe that people can still be friends with their exes, as long as they do not still love each other. You can have love for a person but to be inlove with them and maintain a freindship a best friendhip is almost impossible. You both need to work out whether it would be better to start over with your relationship and COMMIT to one another or whether you need to move on, point back. To move on means to lower your expectations on eachother, to not date anymore and to distant yourselves. I dont believe that you can have it both ways.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2007): You both sound like you want the other one and you are playing at having a relationship. Really, healthy relationships between a man and a woman require a commitment...if you love each other, then commit to being in a relationship exclusive of all others...only then can love really start.
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