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writes: I've lived with my best friend for a few years now and have had a crush on him for a long time. Nothing has ever happened between, we've just always been there for each other and a very close. We recently moved into a new apartment with another girl who is basically throwing herself at him. She sprawls across him and flirts with him at every opportunity, wears some-what revealing clothing. He's not the kind of guy to say anything if he finds this uncomfortable. He just puts up with it. However, I know that he will eventually want his own space again.It's difficult to watch as a friend nevermind as a crush. It makes hanging out rather uncomfortable.We also went out to celebrate the new house with a larger group of friends. But it turned out to be a crap night because the gang ignored me and spent all night talking to her. I feel like I'm being pushed out and replaced, even though I haven't went anywhere or done anything wrong.Any suggestions as to what I can do?
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (5 September 2009):
 You are acting as if you are jealous of her and that's not healthy. Try to become friends with her and see how that works out.
Now about this best friend of yours. I imagine that it would hurt you so much if he had a girlfriend or worst if he chooses her ss his girlfriend. Have you thought about confessing your feelings to him? Of course this is always risky and could make things worst and awkard between the two of you. You have to choose if you want to stay his bestfriend or if you want to take the chance to become his lover.
If you want to stay his bestfriend you are just going to have to accept thst he will have girlfriend(s) and you are going to have to get over him. It will do you no good to keep wanting him and will hurt you.
Now if you want to take the chance to become his lover then go about it very carefully. Try lightly flirting with him and see how that goes.
Now about you being replaced...you are NOT being replaced. I take it the group of friends were guys of course they are going to pay attention to her...they probably want to have sex with her. Give it some time and she won't be so interesting anymore. Just hang in there and be as sweet and friendly to her as you can...it will do you no favors to show your dislike to her. In time she will become old news.
Good Luck! :)
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