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female
age
51-59,
*uttermilk
writes:I am involved with a guy who I’m not sure about and wondered what you think. When we are together, he talks about himself quite a bit. As time has gone on, he has been a little more considerate of me but still doesn’t always listen to what I have to say.I hate texting as it can cause so many problems with misinterpretating and wondering what the other person is doing but because we aren’t in a position to see each other every day, we do text. I am romantic and wear my heart on my sleeve. I am also sensitive and empathic which I don't really think he is. Sometimes he will respond to a text, sometimes not. It's gets to the point where I don't bother to text with frustration and he may just send the odd text. I can send him a romantic email, and not always is there a response.He has a history of affairs and wife swapping so he could be really just out for what he can get with me.If we are out in company he will constantly joke about sex and making a threesome with my friends.Sex is very good between us, and emotional which is strange considering what I'm saying. We could kiss forever.He says I worry too much and I guess I do, but it concerns me that he's just not that into me and that perhaps he should make me feel more special, like I do him.I know I have issues with self esteem and not feeling worthy but I still I wonder how to get him to really want me...which is crazy as there could be someone out there more worthy of what I can offer.What do you think I should do? The thought of being without him makes me feel very low but then I lived without him before he came along...Thanks for any help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2011): The main thing that stands out in your question is the word sex - he's had numerous affairs and is into wife swapping also he's insinuated in a nudge nudge way about a threesome with your friends
All I can see is huge red flags and coupled with his lack of interest in you as a person I would say move on as he's not meeting your requirements, hence your question here
Unless you just use him for sex while you carry on looking and dating others - thats up to you
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